Cool it, Kammie!

Minister of Social Care Steve Blackett has chastised the island’s newest men’s advocacy group, saying its approach would not help advance cause of men here.

Blackett has taken issue with Access for Men, whose leader, social activist Kammie Holder, last Thursday launched a stinging rebuke of Men’s Educational Support Association (MESA), suggesting it was all bark and no bite.

Holder appeared to be particularly peeved at what he suggested was a less than aggressive approach by MESA to fighting for men who are denied access to their children by the children’s mothers.

However, Blackett told Barbados TODAY on the fringes of a ceremony at Baobab Towers in Warrens, St Michael to launch a week of activities in observance of International Men’s Day, that the aggressive approach by Access for Fathers did not augur well for the common good.

“What I don’t like is the competition of one group pitting their interest against another group’s interest, because I believe that at the end of the day, both groups are really advancing the cause and the case for men in Barbados,” the minister said.

He recalled that MESA and the National Organization of Women had also had a contentious relationship in the past and he was forced to intervene.

“And I am seeing now that this new group, of course, speaking to the needs and requirements of a particular constituency, which are men, and of course MESA is doing the same thing. I believe that they should collaborate, because at the end of the day, they are advancing the case for men; and rather than rivalry and contentious in nature of their representation, I believe they should be joining together and advancing the cause of men in Barbados,” Blackett stressed.

In launching the group last week to lobby against women who deny fathers access to their children, Holder told reporters he was forced to step up and take the lead on the issue because MESA had simply dropped the ball.

In what was clearly a matter of personal interest, Holder said he had to resort to social media to highlight his plight because MESA “has dropped its mandate” when it comes to defending and protecting men’s rights in certain cases, such as custody battles.

“MESA is an organization which has a problem with men calling bad mothers ‘dead beat’ but has no problem with women calling men the same thing. MESA has lost their mandate and it has left me no choice but to start my own [group] to represent men who are going through this issue,” said Holder, who went public on social media last week with details of his own bitter child custody battle and has since stepped up a public campaign on Facebook to raise public awareness of the issues confronting men.

When contacted for a comment on Holder’s charges, MESA Chairman Grantley Osbourne said he would issue a response at a later date.

However, the organization is on record as having voiced strong objection to the harsh treatment it says is usually meted out to men when they go to court to deal with paying child support, compared to the women who refuse to let men see the very children for whom they are paying child support.

Back in 2015, MESA went as far as calling for mandatory DNA testing at childbirth in an effort to protect men from paying child support for children they did not father.

Meanwhile, when Blackett addressed this morning’s event, he expressed serious concern about the challenges facing men and boys, particularly gun violence.

“International Men’s Day should also be seen as a time when our men and our boys can reflect on the challenges that confront them and strive for solutions to these challenges. Male on male violence is an issue of grave concern in our country. The increasing incidence of gunplay in our society that has claimed the lives of a number of young men this year serves as a reminder that all is not well among some of our young men and that as a society we have a tremendous task ahead if we are to save our future generation of young men,” he said.

Blackett also said he was worried about the number of young men who end up in jail, and “the continued decline in the numbers of men accessing education”.

One of the highlights of this week’s celebrations is a technical and vocational showcase and symposium for young men and boys, which will be held at the Queen’s Park Steel Shed on Saturday from 10 a.m.

Under the theme Making a Difference for Men and Boys, the activities will conclude on Sunday morning with a thanksgiving service at Christ is the Answer Family Church in Speightstown, St Peter, starting at 8 a.m.

22 Responses to Cool it, Kammie!

  1. luther thorne November 14, 2017 at 3:28 am

    The Minister is opposed to Kammie for the same reason that a certain CBC Moderator is opposed to him.

  2. Kevin Branch November 14, 2017 at 5:17 am

    Minister want Kammie to cool down?Cut the chatter and do something about is the cheapest commodity in the world costs nothing.

  3. archy perch November 14, 2017 at 7:16 am

    Kammie always looks and comes at you on TV looking so angry and with antics of a bully or even a dictator. I hope he never decides to enter the political arena. The white businessmen (Bico et al) got him in their back pocket with the plastic bag thing.
    Our journalists are letting us down in investigating who is benefiting and who started this so-called greening initiative to get rid of and charge for plastic bags. Kammie is a fake with a big ego who seeks publicity. SMH.

    • Jennifer November 14, 2017 at 10:04 am

      The green gine in them pockets. Its called lock down approach. Absolutely nothing to do with environment. Kammie is one of many in this boat.

  4. Bevan Green November 14, 2017 at 7:30 am

    Keep going Mr. Holder. Apparently, you have mashed some people corn. MESA has been silent for far too long. Men have real issues that confront them and some of those men in MESA are living under a rock and have awaken from their slumber because you are speaking to issues that are relevant to fathers and children today.

    Speak Mr. Holder, speak your truth clearly. Shout at times if you must. There are many behind you. Men have been disenfranchised for far too long. Men Have rights too. The right to access and have custodial rights of their children just like the other parent.

    There must be equality under the law. The law is for men as well.

    Mr. Minister, please let him speak. He has much to say that is of interest to many men in Barbados. You may be sensitized to the current issues of men if you would only listen.

  5. Kammie Holder November 14, 2017 at 8:19 am

    Sorry, we have sheep, goat, eagles, sloths and even sharks that we as humans can be categorized according to our personalities. We are all a mixture of the aforementioned but I would never want to be the lazy sloth.
    Perhaps our socialization and love of like dictates how we demand change be it in a soft tone or harsh voice. Why is it when ever men seek to champion their rights there is always this gynosympathy and desire to quell the concerns?

    We are not in any fight with MESA and I am glad if my comment that they have lost their mandate creates a conversation. Our mandate is conversation over confrontation while seeking to remove hostility and mistrust among parent Oh I forget we will be doing an appeal to explain to men why they should not stop pay support because they are vex with the child mother. Access is the right of the child to parent once its not in any danger.

    @Archy Perch, you seem to always waking on the wrong side of life and need to tell the country what you have done lately to make Barbados a better place!

    #GynoCentrism is real and so is Parental Alienation Syndrome the implacable hostility.

  6. Kammie Holder November 14, 2017 at 8:23 am

    @Archy Perch, yes I running for politics in your area and I will outlaw all comments like yours. It happened in China last week so Barbados would not be unique. #lol

  7. Carl November 14, 2017 at 8:41 am

    Perch! Perch! Perch! You’re off track. While the grass growing, the horse starving. All talk and no action. While nothing is being done about the women using the system to deny men their rights, the same system is penalising men who default. What’s fair or reasonable about that. When the women deny men access to their children, who suffers? Not the men but the children. Yet when, as a result, the boys especially fall short of being model citizens, this is blamed on the absence of a father. The absence that was sanctioned by the system. Maybe a survey should be done to see why the male population of HMP Dodds is so overwhelming. Personal or not, Holder is on the ball and who better to push the issue than someone who has been directly affected instead of someone who is merely hearing others’ complaints. The hurt is real. Give the men a fair break.

  8. Kwame November 14, 2017 at 8:42 am

    I completely agree with this comment. I seldom do accuse anyome of this but to me it’s obvious this maybe politically motivated as women are statistically speaking more likely to vote and when a SOCIAL media post where a woman was blasting a man, cursing and carrying on with the young child present there was no such response from the Minister of SOCIAL care. I watched both videos by Mr Holder. He was neither disrespectful of his audience of the mother of his child. He presented the situation and showed evidence of his claims. He even made a subsequent video showing him enjoying some time with his daughter. So therefore what would be the purpose of this response. Don’t men deserve to have a voice in this society? Beyond the the minister’s words ppl must examine the message he is sending by this response. It is that men have no right to speak out against the authorities that are committed to them. In the month of Movember no less. #shame.

  9. Darth Philfius Maximus November 14, 2017 at 9:00 am

    Look keep mashing dem corns doo!

    MESA is another slumbering giant… well more like a slumbering old midget that’s never accomplished anything and it’s about time that men get some representation from somewhere.

  10. Johnathan November 14, 2017 at 10:18 am

    Kammie like the Minister are two pip squeaks just that one got a little position he struggled with and the other is truly a little squeaker struggling for attention.

  11. Jennifer November 14, 2017 at 10:22 am

    Mr Blackett what are your solutions???? just talk, talk, and in worry you seem to just highlight. You have not stated any solutions as per usual, only criticized. We need a strong support arm for our men and something clearly needs to be done to properly support our men to ensure they have that vital access ad relationship with their children (based on individual circumstance of course) – It is a must to prevent a lot of the jailing, and delinquent behavior of our youth especially the boys. Too far east is west and we are clearly in the west. Justice, education, and religious systems clearly is to blame>>>>>>>> government on lock down.

  12. luther thorne November 14, 2017 at 12:51 pm

    “archy perch” aka Democratic Labour Party. DLP Consortium Proproganda Arm – purveyor of lies, polarization and fatted calf syndrome CCC.MK. DA never miss an opportunity to spout folly and politicise everything. CBC Moderator and facilatator of same axis of evil.

  13. Thunder November 14, 2017 at 1:08 pm

    Listen to me politicians will never like out spoken people,keep the good work up,stand your ground,this country needs a voice like yours!

  14. Whitehill November 14, 2017 at 2:52 pm

    Very good Mr. Holder, you’ll have an uphill battle on your hands as most men in Bdos are spinless pooch sniffers. We’ve all suffered some horrendous crap at the hands of our women with regards to, in this case, our children. Yet, these women have been from time Immemorial able to present themselves as innocent virgins.
    What’s so sad about this is that the same men who will invariably have to go through or have experienced these things at the sniff of a big pooch will throw each other under the bus.

  15. milli watt November 14, 2017 at 3:50 pm

    steve like he still got dat british accent………..OR NOT as soon as you open yuh mout in this cess pool of a place yuh aggressive if yuh keep yuh mout shut yuh passive but if yuh build a 2.5 MILLION DOLLAR HOUSE yuh MASSIVE!

  16. ch November 15, 2017 at 3:29 am

    There are good fathers and bad mothers.
    But there are too many persons with Y chromosomes in this country who are not men and cannot be respected as men. It is women who still bear the burden of child support- emotionally, physically and financially.
    Women and children continue to be demeaned and abused by a system which fails to enforce child support. Ridiculous and useless scraps of money are allocated to house, clothe , feed and cover incidentals for children and these so-called men are allowed to remain under-employed and delinquent in payments but are cushioned by the system. But the mothers have to break in half to keep their children going. And the children see this neglect and indifference from these unformed men who then expect to be allowed visitation and contact with these children.
    They want the rights without the responsibility.
    What about the rights of the children? Who really speaks for them?
    “Father” is not a word- it is a lifelong act of love, care, commitment and sacrifice and you have to deserve that title.

    • Darth Philfius Maximus November 15, 2017 at 7:20 am

      Have you paid any attention to the inner workings of these situation whatsoever?

      There are father’s like Kammie paying excessive amounts of money every month and still being denied access. He’s volunteeed to pay all of his daughters school anmedical fees of his own accord. He wasn’t asked or ordered to… But still has to jump through hoops to see his child. There are lots of fathers like this and it’s unacceptable.

      What I realise is that every time access for father’s comes up women are quick to point out the deadbeat father’s as if they are representative of every last father and it’s getting really old… really fast.

  17. just trying to clarify wording November 15, 2017 at 7:55 am

    I have no problem with what kimmie is doing. My problem is calling hard working mothers dead beat. Some women just wicket and something really need to be done when it comes to father that wants to be there children’s life. Father are call dead beat because be honest ,conduct a research and tell how fathers really out there try to make sure there kids are clothed and fed. They dont care and tgem aint checking. Check and tell me how many single mothers are out there.let me know. So coming and calling women dead beat because you she had difference and then she put thr child in the middle ,is not dead beat .that’s a evil and wicked parent .

  18. BigMerv November 15, 2017 at 1:15 pm

    Mr. Holder, please keep your daughter’s face out of social media.

  19. African November 15, 2017 at 6:57 pm

    Is it Access for men or Access for fathers

  20. Kammie Holder November 16, 2017 at 6:03 pm

    My daughter,s picture can also be found on litter bins showing adults how to put litter in bins. Thus some will point her out as the kids on the garbage can or even call her the garbage kid. Her love for animals and the environment will be her strength. My daughter is indoctrinated to be strong,to ignore things outside her sphere of control and think for herself.

    @BigMerv, you concern is however noted.


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