Loose women

Magistrate critical of females who grant “easy favours” to men they don’t know

A local magistrate has lashed out at women who give themselves easily to men whom they know nothing about, often not even their names or where they live.

And, said Wanda Blair, when children are born as a result of these easy “favours”, many of these women go to the court seeking child support, but refuse to grant the fathers access to the children.

“I am finding more and more, women are sharing their favours . . . too easily, and when they wake up and the children are born they suddenly realize that the man who they shared their favour with, he is a good for nothing,” Blair last night told one of the Man Talk series of panel discussions organized by the Men’s Fellowship of the Cave Hill Wesleyan Holiness Church.

“Some of them don’t even know the name of the man . . . don’t know where he lives, so they come to file an application for maintenance, and they don’t even have an address because they do not know.

“Some of them know the man by a call name. So how is the [court] marshal going to go in search of this man?”

The magistrate, who presides over family cases dominated by child maintenance claims, blamed the socialization of girls for this practice, stating it was important to consider “how we socialize our women in this society. We have to be careful how we socialize our daughters”.

Magistrate Wanda Blair makes a point as fellow panelist, Probation Officer Owen Birch looks on.

As the only woman on the four-member panel, which was also moderated by a man, the magistrate made no excuses for the behaviour of the women who go before the court demanding child maintenance from men they hardly knew or they sometimes detest.

Many of them are vindictive, she said, and seem to view the men as cash machines, and nothing more.

“They see the children as their children. It seems as though the man didn’t play any role at all. They see his role as mainly providing money for the child.

“They refer to the child as ‘my child, I don’t want my child to go at him,’” Blair told the discussion themed, Is child maintenance a man thing?

“I often say to them, ‘if you curse the father of your child, it is a reflection on you, of your poor choice, because you are the person who chose that man to be the father of your child, so don’t waste your time cursing the child about the father’. The child has nothing to do with choosing that man . . . . Therefore it is a reflection of our poor choice.”

Blair said many of these women often gave “all sorts of excuses” when fathers demand access to the children, citing an example of a mother giving as a reason, “the house in which the man was living in look as though it would capsize any moment”.

“I said, ‘if you knew where he was living before you got the child [but] you went ahead and got the child for this man, he [the child] is going to visit his father at that same house,’” she told the audience.

Blair also hit out at women who “feel better than the men” simply because they had found a job, and those who “all of a sudden realize that the man is a drug dealer”.

The magistrate said she often explained to the mothers, “That’s not going to help. Maintenance goes hand in hand with access to your child.”

93 Responses to Loose women

  1. Nat May 27, 2017 at 4:42 am

    Really!
    Maintenance goes hand in hand with child access.

    Then someone explain to me why I can not get the magistrate to implement a visitation order.

    All I keep getting is I cannot force the father to keep the child.

    No one talking then about I didn’t get the child on my own

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  2. Betty charles May 27, 2017 at 5:30 am

    Apparently the magistrate is in favour of the men …ladies keep your legs close ,wanda Blair is very bias.how does she send a child to a drug dealer house?

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    • Jack dapeee May 27, 2017 at 8:48 am

      You sound stupid

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    • Carson C Cadogan May 27, 2017 at 1:43 pm

      Your talking a lot of rubbish.

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      • Milli Watt May 27, 2017 at 4:34 pm

        betty should keep her legs closed

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        • harry turnover May 28, 2017 at 7:22 am

          Betty probably REGRETS not closing hers and is probably one of those women the magistrate is talking about…and it is probably hurting her more NOW than THEN now that SOME women have been EXPOSED.

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    • Watchman May 28, 2017 at 3:54 pm

      How could a woman lay with a drug dealer, make a child, then does the drug dealer away but keep his money. True Gold Digger. She knew where to go to get money huh.

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  3. Carlos Husbands May 27, 2017 at 6:11 am

    Quite an interesting article . Its amazing that they are comfortable receiving the money but simple access they want to deny. Eventually they blame the same men for the outcome of their children. It takes two parents to raise a child. It’s strange that some persons would believe that the magistrate is biased. What she said is the truth . I’ll like to see the day when parents act like adults and stop using their children as pawns for money or bad mouthing the other with the chuldren. It’s only the children who suffer in the end and then when they begin to revel they end up.I’m the same court system they started in only thing is they are offenders.

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  4. Glen Bashir May 27, 2017 at 6:17 am

    Wanda Blair is not bias..She just woke up. I hope she stays woke!

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  5. Karla Williams May 27, 2017 at 6:22 am

    Refreshing perspective of the Magistrate.
    In family law matters in Barbados, men start off facing an adverse prejudice… the ancillary institutions – Welfare Dept. the Counselors are not inclined to believe there can be anything good or right about the man’s perspective..
    Hopefully this Magistrate continues to correct certain wrongs of the past.

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  6. Earl Goodman May 27, 2017 at 6:26 am

    Carlos Husbands you understand well the psyche of these parents whose hostility to each other leave no room for the child’s best interest. THE BIAS Of WHICH BETTY CHARLES SPEAKS IS A BIAS TOWARDS FAIR PLAY. Wanda Blair shows a worthiness that’s refreshing.

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  7. E Jerome Davis
    E Jerome Davis May 27, 2017 at 6:43 am

    Every thing that I have been preaching.

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  8. Kaiser Sose
    Kaiser Sose May 27, 2017 at 6:50 am

    What a prude .

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    • Cheryl Cumberbatch
      Cheryl Cumberbatch May 27, 2017 at 7:56 am

      The truth shall set you free

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    • Kaiser Sose
      Kaiser Sose May 27, 2017 at 8:12 am

      We all sin premarital sex, having kids out of wedlock drinking, judging others, talking about people etc etc.Their are far more pressing issues like corruption, a gun epidemic, drug addiction thats what she as a MAGISTRATE should be concerned about, leave the moral bombast for the clergy.
      She needs to stay in her lane .People lives are theres to live right or wrong.karma is their ultimate judge “NAMASTE”

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      • VoR May 28, 2017 at 4:44 am

        Kaiser Sose There is a bit link between these issues that you say aren’t as pressing and the criminality we’re now faced with. A broken family unit contributes to societal dysfunction.

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      • harry turnover May 28, 2017 at 7:31 am

        Kaiser Sose….the TOPIC was “Man Talk series of panel discussions organized by the Men’s Fellowship of the Cave Hill Wesleyan Holiness Church.” and she IS The magistrate, who presides over family cases dominated by child maintenance claims.
        So what you wanted her to talk about ?…..Shannon Gabriels’ wild swing which enabled the Pakistanis to win the TEST match and clinched the series ?
        ….and that IS her lane…what is yours ? apart from being anti man and a stranger to the TRUTH ?

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        • Biscuits May 31, 2017 at 2:08 pm

          Read this…started to smile. You hit the nail on the head!

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    • Sharon Taylor
      Sharon Taylor May 27, 2017 at 9:02 am

      Ahhhhhh…. My exact point… She is a magistrate, not a counsellor! Speak pertaining to the law and child maintenance!

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      • Carson C Cadogan May 27, 2017 at 1:45 pm

        I agree with every thing she has said.

        Not a word of it is lie. Too many Bajan women are just plain slack.

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      • harry turnover May 28, 2017 at 7:36 am

        ….and IF you knew the LAW you would have REALIZED that she WAS speaking about the LAW pertaining to child
        maintenance!.

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  9. Harry May 27, 2017 at 7:00 am

    Betty Charles your comments illustrate very graphically some of what is wrong with bajan women.

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  10. Anne Ince
    Anne Ince May 27, 2017 at 7:17 am

    Total bs….

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    • Cheryl Cumberbatch
      Cheryl Cumberbatch May 27, 2017 at 7:56 am

      Truth.

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    • Shakira Hunte
      Shakira Hunte May 27, 2017 at 8:03 am

      If,you would but men in bim who would say they excited and on the 5th month change their mind ,I think she ass bias too

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  11. Sonia May 27, 2017 at 7:27 am

    Very interesting article but unfortunately very true. It is very refreshing to see another female with the same perspective. Now Betty if all you could get from this article is that the magistrate is bias then your comprehension skills are extremely poor. The magistrate gave a fair assessment of what she sees on a daily basis. If you don’t like it then start to encourage your sons and daughters to choose wisely in selecting their partners. And Harry it isn’t only Bajan women it is all nationalities of women period.

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  12. Dave Person
    Dave Person May 27, 2017 at 7:53 am

    Hats of to this woman. You are a God send. Now we need more women to start speaking this truth. It is not often that a woman will speak on the bad portion of womanhood.

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  13. Cheryl Alleyne-Brooks
    Cheryl Alleyne-Brooks May 27, 2017 at 8:06 am

    Very interesting and she has some valid points. She is not bias, people have to learn to deal with facts and truth. Men think different from women, and at the end of the day women are left with the responsibility so we have to be more careful than them. Start trying to do what’s right. We always have to pay for mistakes and as she said some women create their own storm and then look for shelter.

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    • Maria Leclair Dasilva
      Maria Leclair Dasilva May 27, 2017 at 8:55 am

      Agree she does have some valid points which I agree with. She lost me with her attitude toward men.

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      • Carson C Cadogan May 27, 2017 at 1:46 pm

        I guess you would have been happier if she was beating up on men.

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    • Cheryl Alleyne-Brooks
      Cheryl Alleyne-Brooks May 27, 2017 at 9:12 am

      I think she just wants our women to focus more on life in general when it comes to making decisions, especially where children are involved. She is saying after the sex some women can’t even find the men, don’t know anything about them. Don’t even know their real name. We need to be more mindful of the things we do as women, not that men ain’t to be blamed. But if you can’t find them or don’t even know they real name who is suffering the kids. We can’t hide ,a lot of this do happen, so it’s best to address the point. She is a judge so she see this all the time, more than the regular person.

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  14. Sharon Taylor
    Sharon Taylor May 27, 2017 at 8:10 am

    Miss Blair for a magistrate you are just as dumb as the rest of the idiots that in charge! That is why Barbados today twist ya words! I have read what u said and all I got from your opinions is that Barbadian men are in crisis! We no longer have strong, responsible, hardworking Bajan men! We now have weak, irresponsible slackers for men! Mothers please train your sons to be the male you would like to have, considerate, helpful, decent , responsible etc etc… Those characteristics are learned… If u want your man to open doors for you, then teach your son to be respectful! Each one, teach one, pass it on! Fathers, teach your girl children to be the female you would want in your life… Teach her self respect, responsibility, let her know her body is a temple to be respected, tell her about the wiles of men and last but not least makes sure she wants something more from men than sex because that leads to unplanned babies! I said all of that to say this… If our males were trained right, no magistrate would be running her mouth putting down her own sex about child maintenance! Because d men would know that once the child is theirs, no amount of stupid females couldn’t stop them from being the best father in the world, why, because their father before them was! Opps… No he wasn’t! That’s the problem… They didn’t have a Dad, so the trend will continue! Dads love your children and provide for them as best as u could, and learn to ignore d stupid women that wunna breed!

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    • Cisne Pascal
      Cisne Pascal May 27, 2017 at 8:29 am

      What you said!

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    • Cheryl Alleyne-Brooks
      Cheryl Alleyne-Brooks May 27, 2017 at 8:34 am

      Sharon Taylor you have some valid points ,but let’s be realistic I wouldn’t call her dumb. She also is stating valid points and we have to see it as is. I don’t think she is taking up for the men but

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    • Cheryl Cumberbatch
      Cheryl Cumberbatch May 27, 2017 at 8:37 am

      Can’t figure out why you would try to get personal. She is speaking the truth based on her experience. Plus a lot of what you have said validates what she said.

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    • Sharon Taylor
      Sharon Taylor May 27, 2017 at 8:46 am

      Cheryl Alleyne-Brooks Why are there so many men in court for maintenance? Because they don’t understand responsibility! Never had a father, so not being a father or supporting their kids is normal…. Their dad didn’t support them…. Stating facts and throwing blame doesn’t solve anything! But acknowledging why so many of our males are don’t carish towards their own children does….. Which would be realizing the root problem, and dealing with it… Now that would show that she’s a gem of a lady! Both sexes are at fault, but does anyone know who really suffers? THE CHILDREN! No one else…. Just them… She bout there talking nonsense and this island got nuff children that cant get fed properly cause d magistrates wondering bout d looseness of mothers and not d well being of d children!

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      • harry turnover May 28, 2017 at 7:48 am

        Sharon Taylor …YOU WOULD HAVE TO BE ANTI MAN.
        What the Magistrate said is the TRUTH.YOU too might be one of those women who have been indulging in those practices.Blame YOUR choices of men.
        You appeared to be very ACID towards men it seems,
        Wha happen to ya ..a man horned ya or wha ?…then get even..horned he back wid a woman den and stop talking SH8…you need to go wipe ya mout and flush it

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    • Cheryl Alleyne-Brooks
      Cheryl Alleyne-Brooks May 27, 2017 at 8:47 am

      Ok point taken but I think you were a bit too hard on her.

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    • Sonia Lynch
      Sonia Lynch May 27, 2017 at 8:51 am

      Blair is correct ..I was preaching this long time and wanna call it criticism of the same sex .(.u fa real )women out dey proud proud being called rat boxcy. .opening they legs fa any Harry dick or Tom and ain’t using no protection getting children and then using it as an excuse to sell p***y.so what ..women respect ya self

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    • Shonel Kingston
      Shonel Kingston May 27, 2017 at 8:52 am

      I agree with her 100%i see it everyday how some young women lived they life just sleep with someone that’s all they want

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    • Sharon Taylor
      Sharon Taylor May 27, 2017 at 8:52 am

      Cheryl Cumberbatch I got personal because children suffering! Dem got stupid fathers and silly mothers! To make it worst, now magistrates that trying to be counsellors! Is d man name “dog crap”… And d woman ain’t know he name, that’s bajan life! If he live under a rock and she aint know which one! That is bajan life! Who suffering while we debating all of this? Helpless children! If u saw my words as a personal attack oh well…. What is said, can never be unsaid! I stand by them! Children are our future!

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    • Dave Person
      Dave Person May 27, 2017 at 9:05 am

      A wall of text that is total bs and out of context. That is a magistrate you speaking of. You acting like she a Lil pissy school girl. The magistrate highlight what happening with some of the women in Barbados and you acting like a woman never do wrong. Stop it please.

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    • Sharon Taylor
      Sharon Taylor May 27, 2017 at 9:09 am

      Sonia Lynch U have girl children? I have? I ain’t raise any to think that derogatory terms are compliments! Come on man! Self respect is mostly a learned characteristic! But hey, d bajan man too love a woman without self respect! That ratboxy thing, came about because women like to got other women men and feel good about it! So change wunna behaivour, cause wunna daughters only acknowledging wunna actions!

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    • Sherlene Headley
      Sherlene Headley May 27, 2017 at 9:10 am

      I have to agree with the magistrate too….and I am a single mother of 2 with no support. We have to take a lot of the blame

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    • Sharon Taylor
      Sharon Taylor May 27, 2017 at 9:15 am

      Sherlene Headley Blame for what? U have 2 kids… No dad… So what…. Parents don’t have to be together to parent! Parenting does not have to include sex, contrary to Bajan tradition! Also… A dad may not be able to contribute monetarily for one proper reason or another…. That doesn’t make him a bad dad! Its the one’s that can contribute but just dont or wont! As for the morals, ethics, values and principles of females, that ain’t for her to judge, unless she is an undercover pastor!

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    • Jason Patel
      Jason Patel May 27, 2017 at 9:19 am

      She is correct. Look at these school fights for example and the famous rat boxcy and these idiots are proud

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    • Sharon Taylor
      Sharon Taylor May 27, 2017 at 9:20 am

      Dave Person U sure? Cause um sound like something personal occured with her and everysingle woman that have a man in court responsible…. Every single woman in dis island was horned at one point or another… Be it by a man, or by a woman! D magistrate gave a personal opinion…. Shrugs… So did I! As Sandy said, like it or lump it…..

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    • Dave Person
      Dave Person May 27, 2017 at 9:23 am

      No the magistrate said so women need to be responsible and you said no that women don’t need to be responsible and it’s all the men fault.

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    • Mhizz Jordan
      Mhizz Jordan May 27, 2017 at 9:25 am

      Plenty of women in Barbados put men in court out of spite not necessity they listen to family an friends cause he got a new girl or another child then make him to out to be the bad guy just like they are men who willfully refuse to support a child because of those same reason new man or he just dont care so when u say A u have to say B

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    • Sharon Taylor
      Sharon Taylor May 27, 2017 at 9:28 am

      JasonPatel I send to school 3 girls… Never a fight…. Two adults, one at HC…. My teenage daughter knows what a derogatory term is! I told her all about males when she hit first form…. Used to force her to read dominus, cause life should not be only what her mom said, but other ppls experiences, hopefully we learn from them! Look at our women Jason Patel outside men(men encourage this behaviour) horning women and feeling good about it, and taking home over 3 men in one year for their kids to see! We live what we learn! Unless we choose to be different!

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    • Sharon Taylor
      Sharon Taylor May 27, 2017 at 9:29 am

      Mhizz Jordan agreed… Totally…

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    • Sharon Taylor
      Sharon Taylor May 27, 2017 at 9:31 am

      Dave Person U like u does read what u want to read tho! U stand there boa…. I have no problem having a discussion with ppl that actually say what I said!

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    • Dave Person
      Dave Person May 27, 2017 at 9:31 am

      Sharon Taylor what do you think about the fact that dateing a woman means that you have to take care of her kids as well. Can you tell me your thoughts on this?

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    • Cheryl Cumberbatch
      Cheryl Cumberbatch May 27, 2017 at 9:31 am

      Which is why we have to love the child more than we hate the man. And I am curious ad to what Bajan life you are speaking about. We have to engage common sense in selecting partners. I refuse to blow stupidity off as just Bajan life. Anyway we can agree to disagree.

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    • Dave Person
      Dave Person May 27, 2017 at 9:35 am

      I glad that you starting to notice that women can do wrong as well. And more importantly that only the responsible women can give correction to the loose women out there. Thank you.

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    • Sharon Taylor
      Sharon Taylor May 27, 2017 at 9:35 am

      Dave Person No man that is not my child’s dad, can not support her….. I work and do that wholey and solely! What other females do, is what males encourage… But, most females end up doing what u have accused them of, because of fathers that won’t support their own kids…. It’s a cycle…. One have to choose to break it!

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  15. T mayers May 27, 2017 at 8:22 am

    I sorry I didn’t get to be there when she was talking cause it is a rubbish I have a child from a man that us is over 11 years he hasn’t been supporting him and I have hi in court so when the magistrate can get on the panel and say that she would tell the Marshall to do they jobs and look for the don’t cares fathers that don’t want to support they children cause a man can walk bout freely that says to the system is poor

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  16. Maria Leclair Dasilva
    Maria Leclair Dasilva May 27, 2017 at 8:44 am

    She tells women, “Maintenance goes hand in hand with access to your child”. Maintenance/child support and access/visitation rights are two completely different issues. If a man does not pay child support it should not prevent him from having access to his child/children. Children and their fathers should be entitled to have a relationship regardless to if he pays or does not pay child support. There is already an issue with absentee fathers, her advice will create more of it. I should hope the maintenance enforcement programme does not support her advice.

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    • Sharon Taylor
      Sharon Taylor May 27, 2017 at 9:00 am

      A man may not be able to support his child for a year or 2 because he was down and out for whatever reason! But he would still go around, talk to his kids, keep them on the right track, let them see that he cares and that they matter!. That alone, mean more to a child than d money another father puts, that d mother buys herself hair and clothes with!

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    • Maria Leclair Dasilva
      Maria Leclair Dasilva May 27, 2017 at 9:04 am

      There is a serious problem on this planet with mothers using the Children as a tool for revenge.

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    • Jason Patel
      Jason Patel May 27, 2017 at 9:20 am

      Maria you are correct they are disgusting

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  17. James Franks May 27, 2017 at 8:49 am

    Another name for these gold diggers is prostitute !!

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  18. Isolene Evans
    Isolene Evans May 27, 2017 at 8:53 am

    The woman spoke the truth.Even though it might hurt some women it is the truth.The parents mothers in particular need to teach these girls how to be ladies and value themselves. They should get a good career and learn to be independent, get married before bringing a life into the world.There is too many children with out good parental up bringing in the island.Most men just want some satisfaction and they will take what they can get and keep moving on.It is the woman who have to carry that child for 9 months.Children should be plan ,not the product of a situation.

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    • Maria Leclair Dasilva
      Maria Leclair Dasilva May 27, 2017 at 9:16 am

      Then society wonders why Children are being destructive, angry, running away from home etc. I believe she hit the nail on the head as to why there is an issue regarding children with behavioural issues.

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      • VoR May 28, 2017 at 4:55 am

        The b roken family unit is contributing to the high level of criminality that we are starting to see.

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  19. Barker Antony
    Barker Antony May 27, 2017 at 9:00 am

    Thank you the illiterati out numbers the clever!!!!

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  20. Rosmac May 27, 2017 at 9:19 am

    Most of the comments here are bias…. for years the men were being bla ed and pity 2ere showed towprds the women… now someone has mentioned what is on the other side of the coin she is bias and stupid…. hhhhmmmmmm. …. those of you who can read and interpret English would see this is not the case… she is jusy warning not to turn a blind eye to what the other problem is…

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  21. Ingrid Bullen
    Ingrid Bullen May 27, 2017 at 9:20 am

    Straight talk, No sugar-coating

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  22. Alex Alleyne May 27, 2017 at 9:24 am

    I remember clearly on one of the talk shows on radio a young girl was asked about having children at an early age and not having a job. She replied, “you get 2 children from 2 different men then put both in court and you sure to get $75.00 from each per week”.
    An older lady in my district always told her daughters of 5 , “When you laying down know how you getting up”.

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  23. Suzette Hayling
    Suzette Hayling May 27, 2017 at 9:25 am

    That trend is so sad and dangerous; thanks for speaking the truth, lady!

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  24. Jean Constable
    Jean Constable May 27, 2017 at 9:26 am

    Why is it the women’s fault? Surely if men didn’t see these ‘favors’ without protection, the problem wouldn’t arise……

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  25. Undine Fischer
    Undine Fischer May 27, 2017 at 9:35 am

    Totally agreed

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  26. Kemal harvey May 27, 2017 at 10:18 am

    What definds good for nothing is this defind by a parents inability to have a job .? Cause i realise all this good for nothing talk comes over money and the fact that the females keep the fathers away from the kids because of that how good a mother that makes the female for the mear fact she is using a child as a weapon or barganing chip and the law alows that with the notion of equality all fathers dont have money to give but they have time and the fact that one stupid lady can talk about if it was smart to send the child at a drug dealers house ? Stupid excuse like she didnt know all de time when she and de man was involved he was a drug dealer smh sorry to say but in barbados we have some stupidly retarded spightful women that shout i independant and all that crap cause them just bitter and fyi to them i child is not a pay cheque its a life

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  27. Michele May 27, 2017 at 10:58 am

    What amazes about this artical and many of the comment is that people who should know better resort to a naming and blaming game. Rather than speaking about the behaviour of both parties the females and males are both consenting adults ., so why place the soul blame on the female this is what is wrong with society and person at the various institutions you fail to make the males of society take responsibility instead you continue to condone their behaviour while castigating the women . Come on people wake up only when men are held accountable will we start to see a change stop the one sided foolishness.

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  28. Riel Energy May 27, 2017 at 12:36 pm

    Here we go again. People cant handle truth so they get on the dedensive and shoot the messenger rather than pay attention to the message.

    Society is as lawless and reckless today as a result of nuff irresponsible screwing around and not being able to properly raise the children who are born as a result.

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  29. jrsmith May 27, 2017 at 1:04 pm

    Both man and woman need some serious slapping around for they wild behaviour, what we need in barbados is a ( paternity court ) and (DNA ) testing unit exposing mainly the men, who lots of them are married …. The baby farming must stop …………

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    • Jennifer May 27, 2017 at 1:27 pm

      jrsmith – Pure plantation behavior nothing more, nothing less. Plantation stud = baby farm and plantation hoe = destruction of family, society and the mind. FACT.

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  30. Alex Alleyne May 27, 2017 at 1:21 pm

    One girl got pregnant and she was asked why she did not make the guy use a condom , she said she asked him if he remember to bring one , he said “he did not have any money”. She further stated that when the hormones kick in “any port for a storm”. So you see in the Game of “pleasure seekers” to each his/her own.

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  31. Alfred shepherd May 27, 2017 at 2:43 pm

    Wow it’s refreshing to hear a judge utter thos words, it a long time coming. Mother, daughters you have to change your ways. A man can only do what you let him do. Sampson was the strongest man on the earth, until he met with Delila on the bed. And everything change for him. So you have to realize your power, men think they in charge,but they are not. Everything a man do is for a woman, so who have the power to make the change. You do. Study your head before you open your legs. That’s all. Your children is watching and learning from you. Even the child that’s unborn is learning from your DNA. So when they come out, their are already expose to you behavior. So clean it up.

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  32. L King May 27, 2017 at 2:50 pm

    Men don’t respect a woman who gives herself easily and for the poor children who are born out of this loose behaviour sadly have to go through life carrying their parents shame.

    Women stop blighting your children’s lives a man isn’t going to stop his behaviour until women start respecting their bodies and lives.

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  33. gsmiley May 27, 2017 at 3:23 pm

    Sharon Taylor it looks as though you need your own column. You have a lot of time on your hands.

    For the most part you spewed a lot of nonsense.

    Ms. Blair is correct. Too many women in Barbados are wutless and easy with no respect for themselves whatsoever.

    Screwing with all kinds of ignorant men without even getting to know them ending up with multiple fathers who dont care and are not worth it not to mention diseases.

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  34. Milli Watt May 27, 2017 at 4:38 pm

    I could work wid dis magistrate

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  35. Francis May 27, 2017 at 5:08 pm

    Sharon Taylor
    Just shut up
    The magistrate speech went over your head!!

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    • Jennifer May 27, 2017 at 6:53 pm

      This magistrate is correct, all of what she is highlighting is all leading back to the same inflated cases of men going before her in the courts. The problem with the majority of this people is that they dislike any of their people who will speak truth and highlight their faults. A king hath no honor in his own country. Now let one of them freckle bananas come here and tell them something even if they have no qualifications or experience in that field, this people will believe every word and follow like sheep. This was stone truth and someone has to say it. The churches certainly ain’t saying it or the education systems. Now chew and swallow.

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  36. Agent for change May 27, 2017 at 6:40 pm

    This article does not reflect responsible journalism since it solely focuses on part of what the magistrate said. Unless you were at the panel discussion you would not have understood everything in the context which it was reported. Magistrate Blair was not only critical of women at the discussion she was also critical of men. Her being the only female panelist and the article focusing only on one side of the coin would give readers the impression that she is bias. It was therefore necessary for the author in good faith and professionalism to write a balanced article including the comments and/or views from the other panelists who were men. Guess what bad news sells… and it is unfortunate that readers would attack the magistrate’s integrity and professionalism when she is being truthful. It is a harsh reality but it is the truth.

    More often than not we hear stories about experiences in the court but the person reporting it is not always truthful. Each case is different and is dealt with according to the particular circumstances. No one reports the successes from the court and again the balance is missing. Unless you are present at the hearing to hear for yourself you would go with the stories you hear. We often complain that persons within particular positions withhold pertinent information from society. Yet when a true reflection is reported we attack the messenger. The magistrate has reported the truth do not attack her for that. Instead ask the reporter to share more information that was discussed so we have a better understanding so we can do better.

    Many children are suffering because parents are being irresponsible. I’m not just speaking about having unprotected sex with multiple partners although that is a fact but more so not ensuring that the child’s basic needs are met. No child should feel as if they have to choose which parent to love. There are men not financially or emotionally supporting their children, some would not even touch the child. On the other hand there are men who support their children but cannot see them or the children still hungry, clothing dirty, not attending school because the money is mismanaged. What about the children who are emotionally, physically and even sexually abused by their parent’s partners? These are real issues.

    The magistrate is not judging anyone she is highlighting errors in our actions. Many children are not receiving financial support because their mothers do not know the names, addresses or employment history of the fathers. As a result the summons cannot be served. These are real issues. There are many women who encourage their partners not to support their children from other relationship because the view is the mother cannot spend my money. Men you are a package, women you are a package and your relationships should reflect such. A new relationship does not mean your child has to be left out. Parents need to respect each other’s partners and stop placing the children in the middle of a war.

    When the magistrate spoke about the drug dealer issue this is what she reported. There are women who knowingly are involved with such men and are aware of how the money is earned etc. When things are good they are good. However when the relationship is over and the said man wants access to his child which goes hand in hand with the maintenance the woman reports to the court that she does not want the child to spend time with the man because he sells drugs. Another example is I don’t want the child to go there because the living conditions are not good. The said house she frequented or lived in prior without complaints. I do not want “my child” going by him because he leaves him or her with the grandmother or aunt but when the mother has to work or is out and leaves said child with a grandmother or aunt its not an issue. Can this be fair? These are real issues.

    Let me be clear the court takes into consideration any situation that would bring harm to a child and the magistrate asks social agencies whether it be the Probation Department, Child Care Board or the Welfare Department to conduct investigations before a decision is made. Many cases are also reviewed periodically to make sure everything is running smoothly. Again I say the magistrate was reporting truthful information its unfortunate only one side was shared.

    Please stop attacking the messenger and let us work on finding solutions to these challenges. Let us not let pride get in the way and not seek help in areas where we are weak. Every home has their challenges but don’t focus on the Joneses because you don’t know how they are getting through!!

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  37. Agent for change May 27, 2017 at 8:50 pm

    This article does not reflect responsible journalism since it solely focuses on part of what the magistrate said. Unless you were at the panel discussion you would not have understood everything in the context which it was reported. Magistrate Blair was not only critical of women at the discussion she was also critical of men. Her being the only female panellist and the article focusing only on one side of the coin would give readers the impression that she is bias. It was therefore necessary for the author in good faith and professionalism to write a balanced article including the comments and/or views from the other panellists who were men. Guess what bad news sells… and it is unfortunate that readers would attack the magistrate’s integrity and professionalism when she is being truthful. It is a harsh reality but it is the truth.

    More often than not we hear stories about experiences in the court but the person reporting it is not always truthful. Each case is different and is dealt with according to the particular circumstances. No one reports the successes from the court and again the balance is missing. Unless you are present at the hearing to hear for yourself you would go with the stories you hear. We often complain that persons within particular positions withhold pertinent information from society. Yet when a true reflection is reported we attack the messenger. The magistrate has reported the truth do not attack her for that. Instead ask the reporter to share more information that was discussed so we have a better understanding so we can do better.

    Many children are suffering because parents are being irresponsible. I’m not just speaking about having unprotected sex with multiple partners although that is a fact but more so not ensuring that the child’s basic needs are met. No child should feel as if they have to choose which parent to love. There are men not financially or emotionally supporting their children, some would not even touch the child. On the other hand there are men who support their children but cannot see them or the children still hungry, clothing dirty, not attending school because the money is mismanaged. What about the children who are emotionally, physically and even sexually abused by their parent’s partners? These are real issues.

    The magistrate is not judging anyone she is highlighting errors in our actions. Many children are not receiving financial support because their mothers do not know the names, addresses or employment history of the fathers. As a result the summons cannot be served. These are real issues. There are many women who encourage their partners not to support their children from other relationship because the view is the mother cannot spend my money. Men you are a package, women you are a package and your relationships should reflect such. A new relationship does not mean your child has to be left out. Parents need to respect each other’s partners and stop placing the children in the middle of a war.

    When the magistrate spoke about the drug dealer issue this is what she reported. There are women who knowingly are involved with such men and are aware of how the money is earned etc. When things are good they are good. However when the relationship is over and the said man wants access to his child which goes hand in hand with the maintenance the woman reports to the court that she does not want the child to spend time with the man because he sells drugs. Another example is I don’t want the child to go there because the living conditions are not good. The said house she frequented or lived in prior without complaints. I do not want “my child” going by him because he leaves him or her with the grandmother or aunt but when the mother has to work or is out and leaves said child with a grandmother or aunt its not an issue. Can this be fair? These are real issues.

    Let me be clear the court takes into consideration any situation that would bring harm to a child and the magistrate asks social agencies whether it be the Probation Department, Child Care Board or the Welfare Department to conduct investigations before a decision is made. Many cases are also reviewed periodically to make sure everything is running smoothly. Again I say the magistrate was reporting truthful information its unfortunate only one side was shared.

    Please stop attacking the messenger and let us work on finding solutions to these challenges. Let us not let pride get in the way and not seek help in areas where we are weak. Every home has their challenges but don’t focus on the Joneses because you don’t know how they are getting through!!

    Reply
  38. Phillsop May 28, 2017 at 2:55 am

    “If you think that what I am doing is wrong…I don’t want to be right..I don’t want any body to tell me that I am wrong”

    “He has a good job, I would like to get a child or two for him because I know that I would stand good…I would get some good money from him”

    “He would support the child because he would not want his name to go before the courts.. the child don’t even has to be his as long as he went had some”

    Truth be told.. children are being raised like pigs to supplement the income of some women.

    Young girls are even rented out by mothers to help pay bills.

    GET REAL… THIS IS WHAT IS GOING ON RIGHT NOW IN BARBADOS.

    Most of you reading this are doing wrong, but it feels good and you don’t want to be right.

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  39. sticks and stones May 28, 2017 at 5:35 am

    cannot agree with the magistrate loose insulting description of these women .A wise and fair assessment advising those women to seek counseling would have been enough . Her advice to further demean was unwarranted and did absolutely nothing to correct these women low and already damaged self esteem

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  40. Feminist strong May 28, 2017 at 6:37 am

    Why is morality the responsibility of the woman?. Why do men father children with women they do not know? Why do men have to forced to court to do the right thing? This is the legacy of christian patriachy. The original sin of Eve. This is 2017. Societal issues should be viewed and solved in a scientific way. The judge should view each case on the law not the outdated Bible. People morals are not the purview of the Courts nor her personal bias. She should be disqualified from court. Maybe she should join the woman shaming church for fundamentalists.

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  41. Jea Alleyne May 28, 2017 at 8:20 am

    Quite agree with Jennifer. “If you dont know where you come from, you cant know where you’re going”…..Definitely Plantation Behaviour but many dont see that they came from the Plantation….Women in them times were encouraged to be promiscuous, Men were encouraged to be studs….does anyone see anything different today? I don’t in too many cases, the men and the women….

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  42. bk May 28, 2017 at 8:39 am

    If some women would stop allowing themselves to be used as breeders, and stop opening their legs to every tom dick and harry the society would be better off. The magistrate seems to have hit a raw nerve with some of these women, i guess the reflection in the mirror is damning.

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  43. sticks and stones May 28, 2017 at 1:43 pm

    @ bk

    there is nothing reflecting or revealing about what the magistrate said to these women. These women already know the source of their problems and need help. However what reveals and reflects in the mirror is a magistrate with a loose tongue

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  44. Joe May 28, 2017 at 3:46 pm

    Sharon Taylor is fighting a loosing battle but what is so amazing about it is the fact that she doesnt know. The magistrate speaks the truth …… women make mistakes to. It aint everyday that men will take licks. So dont get angry when women taking some.

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