Dad’s cry

Father complains about gay relative’s access to son

A Barbadian father is complaining that he is at his wit’s end because he is being prevented from seeing his 11-year-old son, while a gay relative has unfettered access to the boy.

An aggrieved Euclan Hope said he has been dragged through the fires of hell as he fights to spend time with his son.

At the same time, he said his patience was being tested as the relative drives the boy around and gives him expensive gifts.

So desperate is the 66-year-old Hope that he has written to virtually everyone seeking intervention, including the police, the Child Care Board (CCB), Attorney General Adriel Brathwaite and Minister of Social Care Steve Blackett, without success.

Convinced that the situation is now hopeless, the father took to the streets of Bridgetown this week in a bid to attract attention to his cause, while hoping Prime Minister Freundel Stuart would notice and take action.

A placard which he carried read: “ATT [Attention] PM Stuart. Mom give gay man access to son. B’dos CCB say ‘Ok’! Dad say hell no! What say you?”

The father took to the streets of Bridgetown this week in a bid to attract attention to his cause.

Hope said he last saw his son six weeks ago, but his troubles with the boy’s mother began in January last year when he requested to have the child on weekends to help him prepare for the Common Entrance Examination.

He said the woman, influenced by the relative, decided against it and stopped him from seeing the child.

Already frustrated by the mother, Hope said he was troubled that the relative could influence his son.

In a letter dated March 16, 2016, Hope told the relative he was “forbidden by me Euclan Hope from taking my son” to his home “or driving him around in your vehicle”.

“You are exercising too much control over my son and as a heterosexual man I strongly object to a gay man like yourself exerting the kind of influence on my child that you want to. In my eyes you are grooming him,” he wrote.

He told Barbados TODAY the relative was giving the boy “very expensive gifts and tells him that what I say about my God isn’t correct”.

Euclan Hope is not only troubled by the fact that he cannot see his son, but that a gay relative could influence the 11-year-old boy.

Seemingly running out of options, the father turned to child rights advocate and lawyer Faith Marshall-Harris for legal representation.

All he wanted at first was to have Marshall-Harris write the relative asking him not to have any contact with the child, he said.

However, he said, she denied his request to use certain explicit statements regarding the man’s character and sexuality.

“She [Marshall-Harris] told me that I could not stop my little boy from being in the company of this gay man because he was family. I said it as an elementary answer because there are family members who are drug addicts that you don’t want you kids around, so I didn’t take that advice.”

Marshall-Harris confirmed that Hope had been her client, although she had referred him to an associate while she was out on medical leave.

However, the child rights advocate told Barbados TODAY she had tried to protect Hope from a lawsuit for defamation.   

“I adjudged that his case was best suited by not expensing himself to defamatory action because he had no evidence of what he was saying and that it was only speculation. So we said that, ‘if you seeking access for your son you can accomplish it without that’,” she said.

Unhappy with her representation, the adamant father wrote to the Attorney General on June 12, 2016 and again on October 24, 2016, and after being directed to the Child Care Board he wrote to Blackett on November 14, 2016.

These attempts came to naught, and so did a final visit to the CCB, which promised to investigate the matter but had not got back to him, Hope complained.

Barbados TODAY contacted CCB Director Joan Crawford for a comment. However, Crawford said she was unfamiliar with the specifics of the case, and promised to look into it as soon as possible.  
(KB)

44 Responses to Dad’s cry

  1. fedup May 18, 2017 at 12:54 am

    I think you better listen to Faith Marshall Harris. You may end up in a Defamation suit and then you definitely wont be able to see your son.

    Can anyone update us on what happened to the parents who allegedly left the baby unattended at home which eventually led to the baby’s death by suffocation?

    The CCB is a poor-performing organization!

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    • Jennifer May 18, 2017 at 1:51 am

      If you TRULY care about SEEING your son, then that is where your priority should be focused first and foremost. Work with you attorney to acquire regular contact first, then anything else can come into play. Some of you men are laden with plantation syndrome and do not really want to see your children or build a relationship, just be stiff-necked and a menace. I know a lot women spiteful and bitter too.

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    • hcalndre May 18, 2017 at 8:42 pm

      @fedup; I`m not going to comment on this matter as yet, what I want to comment on is this Defamation thing that the bajan politicians love so much. Why don`t they of all people prove that what is said is not so, I`ll bet 9 out of 10 times they would not pursue the matter, then you would know if its so or not. How many times have you heard that word used in the US?

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  2. Anne Ince
    Anne Ince May 18, 2017 at 1:44 am

    This man is deranged

    Imjs

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    • Jack Ryan
      Jack Ryan May 18, 2017 at 6:09 am

      how so…u don’t have to ,but I wish u would explain this statement

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    • Tonia Prescod
      Tonia Prescod May 18, 2017 at 6:22 am

      Clearly you have more details on the story than were printed so please share

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  3. Phoenix Sevyn
    Phoenix Sevyn May 18, 2017 at 3:43 am

    To be fair any serious man would be very annoyed at this situation

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    • Annod May 18, 2017 at 11:29 am

      Any homophobic man would be annoyed you mean?

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  4. Angus Benn
    Angus Benn May 18, 2017 at 3:52 am

    The state has a right to protect his son from any one who want to bribe him into something that his father don’t want. This man need to get some assistance immediately . This could lead into BLOODSHED. Before something seriously happen, the state would be at fault.

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  5. jrsmith May 18, 2017 at 5:24 am

    Because we are such a them and us society ,we cannot determine whats right from wrong… If our politicians and the (CCB ) were effective or behave equally as they should be , our kids should not be in situations where they are exposed to assault and suffering…
    Will bet if this were the them society,a matter as this would be settled within a week……
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    I am not taking sides in this matter , barbados has become an island like many in the region , where sexual assaults and criminal acts from trusted people on our young people go unpunished , weeks ago figures were published to this fact…..

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    • Jennifer May 18, 2017 at 6:38 am

      @jrsmoth – that is true. But if this man fight for visitation of his son, he can have more control over his son and the situation. But he is clearly not doing so. We already know the courts uphold women in nonsense too, further denigrating the black man.

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  6. Livi London
    Livi London May 18, 2017 at 5:51 am

    I can understand this man…… and it’s very strange why the mother can’t respect the father’s wishes or even try to understand that this could be a great concern for the dad….

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  7. Dolores Huard
    Dolores Huard May 18, 2017 at 6:25 am

    If this guy thinks that being “associated” with a gay person is going to make him gay then I don’t blame the mother for wanting to keep her son away from him!

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    • Glendon Ashby
      Glendon Ashby May 18, 2017 at 6:53 am

      Really?! Clearly, you don’t understand how behavior works!

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    • Dolores Huard
      Dolores Huard May 18, 2017 at 6:56 am

      And clearly you don’t understand what being gay is!

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    • Dolores Huard
      Dolores Huard May 18, 2017 at 7:00 am

      And BTW I’ve been around gay people all my life and that never made ME gay!

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    • Sherlock Holmes. May 18, 2017 at 7:24 am

      Your comments do not surprise me and i will refrain from saying why.

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      • Dolly May 18, 2017 at 8:22 am

        Me either but all I have to say is I hope that it n too late Lord I’m begging u to protect this young innocent lil boy probably the expensive gifts n so on is distracting the mother not saying it’s true but prevention is better than cure

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    • BRAD May 18, 2017 at 8:23 am

      YOU LIKE YOUR A UPCOMING FISH

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    • Annod May 18, 2017 at 11:30 am

      Exactly

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  8. Juanita Blanco
    Juanita Blanco May 18, 2017 at 6:25 am

    My concern with this situation is not about the ‘gayness’ but about the gift giving and the removal of access to his son. I’d have to understand the context of the gift giving to determine whether it can be judged as grooming. For instance, if the relative gives gifts only on the usual special occasions like all other family members or whether he gives them for “no reason” and so on. This case needs a serious review by the powers that be. Even if there is no malice shown on the part of the relative, there is definitely something hinky about not allowing the father access to his son.

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    • Sherlock Holmes. May 18, 2017 at 6:57 am

      You are not concerned about the GAYNESS? Can’t you see the connection between the gift giving and the so called Gayness…. that madam is the ploy.

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      • Caramel. May 18, 2017 at 11:50 pm

        I guess she means that regardless of if the person is homosexual or not her main focus is on the fact that an adult is giving the child gifts and their reason for doing ao

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        • Caramel. May 18, 2017 at 11:51 pm

          So*

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  9. Krystal Reece
    Krystal Reece May 18, 2017 at 6:31 am

    But then if the gentleman is saying the person his son is with is gay and the mom selling the son to the gay relative , who not also take the son from the mom until the investigation is completed, isn’t this type of behavior from the CCB that also lead that little boy to be beaten to death or the little boy to hung himself or the parents who left they baby and other cases you hear about being neglected and then a horrible outcome…. WOW “I’m truly shocked at the response that was given to this man” what if it was any of they children or they family children in this situation would he been turn away so many times .haw haw

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  10. Barker Antony
    Barker Antony May 18, 2017 at 6:33 am

    Think some of these women easy

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    • Jennifer May 18, 2017 at 6:44 am

      WOman – that is why they need to be careful whom they breed.

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  11. Kaisha Taylor
    Kaisha Taylor May 18, 2017 at 6:50 am

    But y can’t he see his son in the first place???

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  12. Sherlock Holmes. May 18, 2017 at 6:52 am

    I am hearing adverts on the radio daily about children and gifts from those who are seeking to sexually exploit.I do not have all of the facts as this is a story from one party,however i do not like what i am reading for years it has been known that even family members are on occasion the prime suspects in molestation. Personally this situation would annoy the hell out of me if i were in this man’s position and for the fear of incitement i will refrain mentioning what i might be inclined to do. This situation needs some serious investigation and the first thing i would do is solicit the services of a serious attorney with the view of having a medical examination done on the in respect of the boy so as have a more pertinent idea of what has been going on. This is very concerning and disturbing in light of the information presented here and so far one can only go by what is presented. PEDOPHILIA is becoming more and more rampant in societies all over the world and once red flags are raised it must be taken seriously i will stop at this point as i am becoming more and more incensed at this i however would implore this reporter not to let this story die i expect to see regular updates.

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  13. Sherlock Holmes. May 18, 2017 at 7:11 am

    Correction …should read…with the view of having a medical examination done in respect of the boy.

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  14. Bevan Green May 18, 2017 at 7:14 am

    http://www.caribbeancourtofjustice.org/judgments-proceedings/appellate-jurisdiction-judgments

    I could vividly remember the plight of another father and the issue of access etc. The link above will tell the story of the Child Care Board and their inconsistencies and on what grounds the father received his justice. I could also remember a blogger, Alana B advocating the rights of Bajan men on this Barbados Today tell us all the reasons we must stand strong.

    I join with her when I say to you Sir, “Mr. Euclan Hope, fight for your rights and that of your child”. I keep reading of frequent injustices being meted out to men like yourself. Good men in here Barbados face many challenges of access and the right to parent. Please go and get joint legal custody of your child and fight all the way to the CCJ if you must!

    Keep reaching out for help. There are many within our society and the wider Caribbean region who would willingly assist you in your plight.

    As a father, you have a right to have a say in how your child should be raised. You are not just a financial donor. The mother of your child does not have unfettered rights.

    I am in support of your efforts.

    God bless you Sir.

    Keep strong, keep courage and know that justice will prevail.

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  15. Shirnel Yarde
    Shirnel Yarde May 18, 2017 at 7:21 am

    A young mind is impressionable and the mind is the battlefield easy manipulation and that choke can easily love all the gifts I understand dad’s concern

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  16. Michelle Griffith
    Michelle Griffith May 18, 2017 at 7:29 am

    Please tell me there is more to this story than what is being said here,because I do not comprehend why the biological father cannot see his child but yet the other guy is allowed too,even if a father is not supporting a child the court still insist that the mother allow him to see him/her.
    There have to be more to this story,if not it is not right.

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  17. Guardian May 18, 2017 at 8:21 am

    It still does not help the Pleading Father if all we do if Speculate,an URGENT investigation Needs to be Done ASAP,this is a Child we are speaking about and the Father needs to have his heart at Peace, i find that these Politicians can make them selves so available to you when Elections are coming ,when there are in there are invisible to your needs,i hope they no the public have good memory,we we listen,Read,n Watch what ever goes on in our Society,Be proactive

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  18. Alvin May 18, 2017 at 10:11 am

    The authorities better pay attention to this and do something before it get out of hand, I’ve seen this same situation played out before and the father ended up killing the children and himself. Authorities should act now and not react later.

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  19. Smiles May 18, 2017 at 10:29 am

    The father is going down the wrong road and is not taking the advice of a former magistrate and child advocate. When he gets hit with a defamation suit for saying that somebody is gay, how is he going to prove the “gayness”, this “gayness” implies that the person has sex with another person of same sex. This has nothing to do with how a person dresses or acts. so unless this man can prove that the person has sex with another of the same sex, I think he should be guided. This father should focus on visitation rights, when he gets this sorted and sees his son on the agreed times, then he can have the appropriate conversation and find out what is happening. he could even take the child to a counselor, doctor and then see if anything can be unearthed to build a case that the child is being molested. When you start wrong you gine end wrong. Defaming people’s character. And by the way that photo of a woman who is accused of going to people’s home pretending to look for work and who is accused of having a gun and working with a gang, the police in Barbados say that they have no report. These things are wrong, and all the smart people walking around forwarding it. it does not matter if the person is in Barbados or not. Persons who are transmitting images of persons to defame their character can be prosecuted when there is evidence of persons forwarding same. A word to the wise is sufficient.

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    • jennifer May 18, 2017 at 10:48 am

      @Smiles – exactly. Everything in Barbados is dysfunctional and lop sided being led by sappy leaders. Lil head ruling big head, passive ruling dominant. With the masses trailing in social acceptance of everything.

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  20. Eric May 18, 2017 at 11:00 am

    The father is not really concerned about his son… he is concerned about the man he alleged that gay that is around his son. Faith Marshall Harris is a very strong and serious child advocate. She will never know of a case of a child being in danger and do nothing about it. She is also a very good lawyer and was a magistrate. The father went to her and she gave him very sound legal advice. it is very clear from her words that the father had no evidence of the accusations he was making about the man. as such she encouraged the father to let her fight for his to get access to his son but the father refused. so what does the father want? does he want access to his son where he can influence in his life or is he upset that he no longer have a relationship with the mother and is upset that another man is caring for his son? save the personal opinions and feelings and listen to Faith Marshall Harris. She is a very darn good lawyer and child advocate.

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  21. Sheron Inniss May 18, 2017 at 3:10 pm

    Dad if you are telling the truth, fight. You can’t hide from God. In my opinion the CCB ain’t saying much considering the last couple of cases they had to deal with. A lot of stuff is swept under the carpet in Barbados but we would want people to believe that certain people and organizations are “lily white” and have all the rights in the world; whilst others are held up to ridicule.

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  22. Meme May 18, 2017 at 5:04 pm

    Why is dad now requesting to only see his son on weekends. Sometimes he story is deeper . Also drug addict or sex addict is different than a person choosing a same sex partner.

    But if what he is saying is true then he has all right to save the child himself and take responsibility.

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  23. Boom bye bye May 18, 2017 at 6:07 pm

    I’m not surprise at all this country all about de gay thing and every one he ask for assistance are involved one way or de other ! Ask your selve why can’t we legalise marijuana but debating on legalising bottism ?? Ah lie? ??????

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  24. Justice May 18, 2017 at 10:54 pm

    The CCB heading for a good suing just now. They only interested in certain children, the best thing they do is disrupt families and tear them apart. It’s surprising how they sleep at night

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  25. Bobo May 19, 2017 at 6:25 am

    What a sad story — a father wants to share his love with his son instead a homosexual is in-control of his child emotions, local Government Authorities ignore this man cries.

    I would like to advise all Government Authorities to act upon this father ”cries” otherwise what future has this child– today’s homosexual world is about Sex- sex — any ”fly” they found with or without condom dick –dick don’t care”

    Last week i spoke to one of my homosexual friends, handsome (material wise) rich young man, work wise-last week he was in New York with a man he just met, right out he said the sex was good– i ask, what about the condom–his reply –I am young, let me enjoy my life every three months I gets medical control- my reply-good luck.

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  26. Watchful Warrior May 19, 2017 at 2:30 pm

    As a woman I am here to criticize the many mothers in this country that deny fathers rights to their children…
    On any given day visit the family court will show you the extent of this problem … Now in this case here this man had chosen to come to the public with the initial problem of the mother denying him access to his child
    The mother seems to be on the path of Get money anrd things in exchange of her child’s wellbeing
    Barbados… Our stink is coming out more and more
    The child is being groomed … The mother doesn’t care… Child services doesn’t care
    But we as a society should care… Father protect this child

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