Can we talk honestly about same-sex relations?

The International Day Against Homophobia, Transphobia and Biphobia was observed yesterday in more than 100 countries to raise awareness about the violence and discrimination experienced by members of the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender and Intersex (LGBTI) communities.

In Barbados, the celebration came to the fore as the Canadian High Commission raised the gay pride flag at its Bishop Court’s Hill location – a move Canadian High Commissioner Marie Legault hopes will inspire Barbados to move towards tolerance and acceptance of the gay community.

In fact, Legault did not beat around the bush, suggesting it was time for Barbados to decriminalize same-sex relations, as she diplomatically chastised the island for keeping the anti-buggery law on its statue books.

“Although I have been told, including by the Attorney General, that in Barbados the anti-buggery law is not enforced, the fact remains that it is a criminal offence and, as such, it is often used to blackmail or extort money from members of the LGBT community. Discrimination can take the form of violence, threats, bullying, denial of employment and access to services,” the Canadian diplomat said.

Interestingly, her silent pressure came as division in the Democratic Labour Party government on the controversial issue resurfaced this week, when Minister of Environment Denis Lowe served up a bad delivery with a bitter condemnation of same-sex marriage, only to be soundly dismissed by a bouncer bowled by his no-nonsense Cabinet colleague Donville Inniss who urged Barbadians to be more tolerant and to respect people’s choices.

It  can’t be denied that the verbal spat mirrors the state of debate on same-sex relations in this country.

Barbadians have been talking past each other on this issue from time immemorial and there’s no indication that the nudge from Canada, which is regarded as one of the most gay-friendly countries in world, will trigger any action.

Both proponents and opponents equally champion their positions with as much passion and clarity as they can muster.

And dare any government touch the issue for fear of being banished to political purgatory.

The fact is, Barbadians for the most part appear to be more accepting of the gay community, yet it is not an issue they appear willing to discuss openly in a rational way.

Both sides are guilty of mishandling the issue.

One could hardly expect a win-win situation if Bible-thumping Christians spout words of condemnation without seeking to respectfully engage those who practice alternative lifestyles.

No one is asking the Church to change its biblical beliefs, but wise followers of Christ have to admit that they cannot accept, condone or preach violence or the discrimination of any member of society when God has given all mankind the freedom of choice.

The issue presents broader implications than the affiliation of any one church, and like it or not, homosexuality will not go back into the closet. Besides, most churches likely include gay and lesbian members, in the open or otherwise.

Equally, the LGBTI community has to demonstrate the very attitude it strongly espouses – tolerance – allowing others to practise their personal beliefs without labelling them as bigots.

Isn’t it irrational to ridicule the right of Christians, Muslims or any other religion to exercise their faith in keeping with precepts outlined in their Holy Books?

Therefore, to come to a resolution that will not tear us apart, demands that all sides abandon their hardened positions.

This will not happen overnight, and Canada and other international countries that have made their decisions on how to treat same-sex relations should politely step back and allow Barbados to chart its course with frank, open and respectful discussion as a start.

18 Responses to Can we talk honestly about same-sex relations?

  1. Devon Sealy Zico
    Devon Sealy Zico May 18, 2017 at 11:39 pm


  2. Ras Small
    Ras Small May 19, 2017 at 12:11 am

    And say what?!
    Breaking cosmic law.

  3. Rubertha Blackman
    Rubertha Blackman May 19, 2017 at 12:33 am

    We will never have honest dialogue in Barbados about this subject, most are hypocrites and bigots. Most of us know who is gay, not like I give damn about someone’s personal choice but it is known who is and who isn’t. Also their are a lot of young male prostitutes who ply the trade and most will tell you their clients are money people and big in every facet of society. The “gay lifestyle” is ripe here in Bim the mock outrage is very laughable.

  4. Mr Rock usa May 19, 2017 at 1:36 am

    The up coming Barbados election will be a referendum on same sex lifestyle in Barbados if a certain party gets in power. you could bet that that party will get the gay vote and seek to change the laws to please a few lost soles at home. Guard our proud heritage of traditional family value Barbados. Elect people of high moral values please!

    • Richard Johnston May 21, 2017 at 4:04 pm

      You’re in trouble if you can’t find your soles.

  5. Zeus May 19, 2017 at 5:24 am

    When a person says homosexuality is wrong does that person automatically discriminates ……when a country changes its laws to accept or acknowledge homosexuality does the citizens of that country automatically accepts homosexuality …..why are the words violence and discrimination automatically brought up when a person speaks against homosexuality ……why do homosexuals run to the bible when Christians discuss the subject ……if an atheist speaks against homosexuality what argument does the gay community use against that person ….more questions than answers …..homosexuals exist because of heterosexuals not the other way around

  6. Jennifer May 19, 2017 at 7:12 am

    We as a people need to stop being gullible and sheeple following other countries in order to fit in by adopting and instituting their practices. You will never fit in, you never have and you never will. But, once that other political party gets elected they will surely institute this gay marriage. And many can’t wait.

  7. Rose Harvey May 19, 2017 at 8:28 am

    Let Dem do, was de won’t, but married is an oder ting.2man or 2women kant make a Child, simply fakt

  8. Just saying.... May 19, 2017 at 11:09 am

    Christians constantly ask “What would Jesus say or do?” Why not search the New Testament and find out what he said on the subject. Search long and hard. The answer is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!.

    Selectively picking Old Testament verses on homosexuality, while ignoring dietary laws regarding pork, or one of the actual commandments “though shall not commit adultery”, (by men with multiple women and offspring) is absolute hypocrisy at it’s best! If the Old Testament dietary laws are invalid because of modern medicine and health regulations not known at the time, is homosexuality which is a scientifically proven predisposition not fall in the same category? Priests, ministers and clergy Stop interpreting the bible and let people decide for themselves “What would Jesus do”.

    What two consulting adults do behind closed doors is their business, not mine. Spend more time ridding society of child abusers and wife beaters and channel your energies in this direction.

    Abraham Lincoln feed the slaves because he knew that no one race was superior over the other. How can minority West Indians think that they have a right to discriminate against another minority group, and garner any respect from anyone.

    Are children with birth defects or mental challenges or genetic disorders not part of God’s family? We do not chose a disability for our children any more than we chose sexual preference. Those were the cards that were dealt, and we learn to live with them. “Love thy neighbour as thyself” and “Judge not, that ye be not judged” are far better tenants to live by.

  9. Alex Alleyne May 19, 2017 at 4:55 pm

    There was a song back in the 70’s saying “if it makes you feel good , do it”.
    It is all about pure”PLEASURE”.
    When 2 men in a bed do we call that SEX.
    When 2 women in a bed do we call that SEX.
    Making LOVE and having SEX is not one of the same.
    A Man and a Woman does both together…….as 1.

  10. Carol May 19, 2017 at 9:19 pm

    The father of all creation is going to punish Barbados and the mp for allowed same sex marriage it is wrong to men can’t have sex they are acting like dogs Bible written man shall not lay with man as a dog lay with a dog The book of Romans 1: 1to 30 God is going to punish and turn his back on Barbados and is already happining from the time they advertise don’t discriminate a sodomite people start dropping dead people shooting people these are the last days and I am sorry to see that Barbados is accepting same sex what are shame are u calling God a lyer for making male and female are u try to say God give man and choice but not the choice to be a sodomite in all the bible God discriminate sodomite. U mp out there u have be warned to the mp that don’t agree with same sex marriage Stan your grounds for in the last days they will call good evil and evil good Gods people is going to be put in prison and some will be kill for standing up for righteousness they can kill the soul.
    As for me I will obay God words and his law and live like Noah so that when barbados get the punishment like the rest of the country the lord will protect his children. Romans 1: it is written man with man doing that which is onseamley. When u read the bible God speak against sodomite he even allowed them to be stone to death in revelation he call them dogs. Do u mps see what is happining to those countries that allowed same sex marriage is dream that Barbados was getting flooded out and it said it is Barbados turn. U mp disappointed God and it am disappointed I u.

  11. Teddy May 20, 2017 at 7:13 am

    Yes, why do the words discrimination and violence come together in discussions about LGBT issues? To make the anti-gay people feel guilty.

  12. Sheron Inniss May 20, 2017 at 3:05 pm

    I do not discriminate against them. I treat all the same way depending on my mood. I try to get up happy and keep it that way but if you bother me you might get blind blister if I get up the wrong side of the bed. As to the violence, it seems to me that gays and lesbians when I check the news are the head ones beating up on each other.

    Buggery is rape. In other words if you don’t get it – Thou shalt not interfere with anyone’s behind or cat or whatever without their permission.

    The ways are the world are not always right. Even if you do not believe in God check nature.

  13. Keen Observer May 21, 2017 at 7:24 am

    The western powers are tricking gays and lesbians. It is not about human rights, they are pushing it as a form of population In addition advocates try to frame the agenda to suggest that christians are the ones who are against human rights. Now when western powers talks about origins of humanity and creation of world they use science like the big bang and evolution. Gay advocates that they can’t win using science because the penis was design to fit into the vagina and woman bodies were design to produce children. Furthermore why is it human rights for a person to marry someone from the same sex and it is not person right to deny selling a gay couple a wedding cake if its conflicts with the owner of the cake. Gay right is only the start,next its going to rights of pedeophiles, the rights of persons to have sex with animals. Are we really leaving the world a better place?

  14. Mark My Word May 21, 2017 at 4:53 pm

    Next Election will be the test, that’s what the Muscle Mary world order wants, a vote for change, Sodom and Gomorrah coming back again.

  15. Alex Alleyne May 22, 2017 at 10:35 am

    @Mark is the LGBT issue on the voters list ? if not then let the Powers that be put it there.
    The only thing the population vote for is to put a Party in Power/Office.
    All people are people and must be given an equal part in society.
    Their sexual preference should not judge them.

  16. hcalndre May 23, 2017 at 3:03 am

    I`m one who believes in the idea of “Live and let Live.” Is this same sex new or alien to Barbados? No way! Ask anyone that knows of Barbados from long time ago and the first thing that they will let you know that Barbados is in denial and very hypocritical about the subject. Where is Naked Departure?

  17. DJ DAY June 17, 2017 at 7:18 pm

    All the people commenting seem to be hetero. this affects you in no way whatsoever yet can mean the difference between life and death for your children. Stop hating them. Jesus said not a word about being gay so shut up about it. don’t have sex with someone of the same sex if you are str8 fool! whether you decide to help your children or not some will be gay and some will be str8. people don’t choose to be either. Open your hateful minds and realize that god loves us all and in his eyes we are ALL equal. God doesn’t make mistakes like you or I.


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