Not Govt’s job

Husbands says parents must raise their own children

It should not be left to Government to raise Barbadian children, nor is it the responsibility of the church or the school, says Parliamentary Secretary in the Minister of Education Senator Harry Husbands.

In an address last Saturday to the annual general meeting of the Barbados National Council of Parent-Teacher Associations (NCPTA), Husbands lashed out at parents who leave it to institutions and individuals to raise their children, while playing minimal role in the offspring’s upbringing.

Harry Husbands

“Yes the school is important, yes the work that teachers do is important, yes there are delinquent teachers, but all of those things you can recover from. You cannot depend on your parliamentary representative, you cannot depend on the church, you cannot depend on the school.

“There are these summer camps that Government sponsors, that should be the very last resort. There are parents in this country who wouldn’t take their vacation or part of their vacation during the summer time, they prefer to send the [children] to camps. Do we want our children to be raised by the Government? Whether it is mine or the other one, do we really want that for our children?” Husbands asked.

“We as parents are called to perform these duties. Anything that Government does, your church does, anything that PAREDOS does, anything your parliamentary representative does, is extra. That’s the icing on the cake. But that can’t be the first point of reference in the rearing of your children . . . we have to stand up and take responsibility.”

The Government spokesman on education linked deviance among students to the absence of proper parenting.

He backed up this assertion by pointing to information gathered by the Students Services section of the Ministry of Education.

“I go to them every now and again to find out what are the current challenges and so on, and they say to me repeatedly that whenever they have challenges with children in the school system, somehow, it always goes back to parents. Parents are absent from too many children’s lives,” he said.

Husbands told the NCPTA he had been “extremely disobedient” as a student, but with the intervention of his parents, he was able to make something of himself.

“Let me say at school I was extremely disobedient, and I have said repeatedly, and I wish I had said this in the presence of my father, that not for the grace of God, my parents, if not for them, I would not be standing in front of you today, with the title I have, the position I have, the experience I have. Regrettably, sometimes it’s only as an adult that we recognize this,” he said. 

21 Responses to Not Govt’s job

  1. Jennifer April 4, 2017 at 12:29 am

    If all of what you are saying is truth. Then we do not need the government to implement mandatory programs for our children either.

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  2. Sheldine Dyall
    Sheldine Dyall April 4, 2017 at 3:35 am

    Go and see idiot

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  3. Sheldine Dyall
    Sheldine Dyall April 4, 2017 at 3:36 am

    Complete yard fowl

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  4. Sunshine Sunny Shine April 4, 2017 at 4:42 am

    You really do not understand the dynamics involved in what makes a strong society, or, maybe you do, and you are just spinning things political. But, I am going to assume that you do not and say that If you did, you would understand the mantra, the saying, the proverb that goes, ”it takes a whole village to raise a child.” Therefore, if the village social system is not structured properly, if the wheels that makes society strong and discipline are not greased properly, how is the village going to have a positive impact on the way in which that child should be raise. The child reflects what he is thought thus the parents of that child is a reflection of what they were taught and the systems that have influenced them. The amount of pressure that bajan parents are under, now, before and since yesteryear, are testament of a social system that has not done so well. That is the fault of what our neglect. We have systems but are they functioning in a way that is working for society?

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    • Jennifer April 4, 2017 at 6:10 am

      @SSS – well said, and it was all by designed. I tell you that education that these big heads had is the root to all of our people problems. Nothing but social, mental and educational ENGINEERING.

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      • Sunshine Sunny Shine April 4, 2017 at 7:12 am

        Indeed it is Jennifer. Barbados has operated on this notion that with these particular social devices in place, society should- strive- a- long- merrily. How can Barbados be any better off when the cost to live puts the basic necessities of life out of reach of the average man? Raising a child in the way that it should go is compounded by many of the problems that plague Barbados social system infrastructure. Lord knows it is not any better in this economic crisis and under the type of leadership the island has been subjected to of recent and over the years.

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  5. Tony Webster April 4, 2017 at 6:22 am

    The Famed Fount Of Wisdom…but DEM now turning-off de tap? Or just dat tired old tactic…of shifting de blame? Cud do better, Sir. Just get de out-of-gas ZR out of Rocky Gully…from right where wunna put it!

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  6. Dave Person
    Dave Person April 4, 2017 at 6:30 am

    People in this government are so quick to say what government should NOT do. But you never hear what government should do.

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  7. Dave Person
    Dave Person April 4, 2017 at 6:31 am

    The other day when the rasta did want to raise their own children I ent hear you say nothing

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    • Jennifer April 4, 2017 at 6:43 am

      @Dave Person – Well said . i was just thinking the same about the rasta couple regarding the first article about the sex education story. These people will bring their shyte when it suits them. As soon as they get the OK from the big brother. They are nothing but a set of wound up toys.

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  8. Sheron Inniss April 4, 2017 at 9:25 am

    I can’t think of anything I was taught from 4 to 19 that would have had my parents up in arms. I keep hearing people saying that our educational system is still one of the best in the world. Maybe true but the best already get throw out with the bath water. A lot of what pertains today is watered down something or the other that is taking one too many of our children nowhere fast. I call it robotics better known as whatever I say is so. So when I say jump don’t ask why just do. Even then I was not a do do child. We have too many do do politicians letting outsiders determine our fate. It seems we need a new National Anthem – Shameful.

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  9. Leroy April 4, 2017 at 11:31 am

    So Mr Husbands what have you put in place to ensure these parents know of their shortcomings and education to lift the standard of parenting?

    Secondly, how are you planning to address the children behaviour inspite of the “bad parenting” you cite as the root of the problem?
    Because at the end of the day, not only are the kids failing but society as a whole and some measures must be put in place to correct such.

    its quite easy to talk but what plan have you got?

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  10. allison archer April 4, 2017 at 11:53 am

    Senator Husbands I have to commend you for calling these parents to accountability for far too long most adults have taken this materialistic approach in raising their charges while relying on supporting networks to do their part

    people there are called SUPPORT networks in that your progeny should be train in what is becoming of a wholesome individual then outside sources will just reinforce what was applied to the child at home making their development very effective, remember it is impossible for one hand to clap
    surely equipping the young with materialistic wants and loosing them in the world is lethal to all

    here the Senator is making a plea for parents to be inform and do their crucial role in the raising of their charges, please wake up and smell the roses, stop looking for a scapegoat

    imagine government have to run adverts in the media to teach them good hygiene, the practice of basic morals and values, conflict resolution, when outside is overcast drive slowly etc. this is stuff that ought be engrained in that child’s mind from the womb, come on people
    you’re saying that one doesn’t have analytical thinking skills to know if vision is impaired via weather conditions to take time in driving but no most were not train in this area so one accelerate to go of no where of importance and in the process injuring / killing other road users

    this is plain pathetic

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  11. Berrie April 4, 2017 at 12:35 pm

    I find some government representatives to be socially disconnected.Every time they speak on a topic that has a meaningful impact on society, it always comes across like they are not educated or have they heads so far up in the air they become nose blind to the real social problems that fall under their responsibilities.I am not a political expert but what I have observed about the DLP they like to shift blame or they are not creative, can not think outside the box nor or they intuitive.The social development of our youths is everyone’s responsibility! Or would you prefer to deal with the aftermath ????

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  12. Alex Alleyne April 4, 2017 at 1:05 pm

    The only thing the Church good at is “taking your money and then tell you all will be well when you die and go to heaven”

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    • jennifer April 4, 2017 at 7:13 pm

      @ALEX – good for u. Well said. Still they don’t know their identity according yo the Scriptures.

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  13. jrsmith April 4, 2017 at 1:38 pm

    Thats why the white man , have his haven to hide his money and decided to keep the black man happy, he added the (E) and said to them when they die they go to heaven ,everything will be free as like milk and honey flowing from the pearly gates , thats keeping them quite…………

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    • jennifer April 4, 2017 at 7:10 pm

      Jrsmith – THAT IS EXACTLY why THE EDUCATION SYSTEM IS TAINTED as it is not designed to improve black people. Only ensuring that black people fall and stay in line building THEIR empires. That is why the system is one of the best in the world. LOOK GOOD AND SEE. Even the DOCTORS Caught up in the nonsense too. Put the 3d glasses on.

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  14. F.A.Rudder April 4, 2017 at 1:41 pm

    The breaking down of moral values has been the process in recent decades. Straying away from our pride and mannerism of colonial days has brought us to what social and domestic values we have as our society! We don”t have to say we are not living up to anyone’s standards but it is truly important to have an ethic which can be related to a productive social environment for the benefit of our offspring. We must remember our children are being subjected to political atmosphere in there homes; this being the case we find that parents are looking for escapes and this is the most damaging for parent and child!

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  15. Richard Johnston April 4, 2017 at 9:09 pm

    Lashing out is usually highly effective theatrics.

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  16. Jea Alleyne April 5, 2017 at 8:31 am

    Maybe we need to adopt some of our African Traditions: it takes a village to raise a child. Masi warriors of Kenya arrive at the ceremonial ground for a ritual of passage into manhood. In Ghana the Krobo females undergo initiation into womanhood…… Too many Western ideals are not working for us because we are not Europeans. Maybe if we taught the truth that civilisation began in Egypt known by many as”The Father of History and the Mother of Civilisation”…….our children will have many things to be proud of !! We need to to back to our roots…we cannot know where we are going if we dont know where we come from !

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