Missing Dad

Boy attempted to walk to St Michael in search of his father

The 11-year-old boy from St Peter who was reported missing yesterday was on a mission to find his father, the boy’s mother revealed today.

Tarel Adams wants nothing else in this world right now but a relationship with his father.

Kimberly Adams told Barbados TODAY that her son Tarel Taronta Adams ran away from home for the second time in three days in a desperate search for his dad whom he has not seen since January.

Kimberly Adams is distraught after her son ran away in the space of three days in search of his father.
Kimberly Adams is distraught after her son ran away in the space of three days in search of his father.

The student, who is preparing to sit the Common Entrance Examination in a matter of weeks, left his Station Hill, St Peter home around 4:30 p.m. on Sunday and was last seen walking along the Speightstown bypass about 7 p.m., travelling towards Road View, St Peter.

Adams, 30, said her son was planning to walk all the way to St Michael to try to find his dad, even though he did not know his father’s address.

“He was walking looking for his father [on Sunday]. But we know he live somewhere in St Michael, but we don’t know where. Tarel don’t know where to go,” said the distraught mother as tears rolled down her cheeks.

Adams and the boy’s father ended their relationship before Tarel was born and she explained that the last time the boy saw his father the child was on his way to school. She said he got off the bus and went to his dad, who promised to spend some time with the child, but never did.

Sitting in her living room this morning, and turning her teary-eyed face away from Tarel’s three siblings, Adams said the boy made his first attempt to walk to St Michael on Thursday evening but returned home after he contemplated “a life without a mother” and his little feet became tired.

She said Tarel appeared to have felt better after his dad promised to pick him up on Friday night so they could spend the weekend together.

“When he come back Thursday he say all he want to do is get to St Michael. I don’t know if he rambling, if he hungry, I don’t know. I don’t know if he will meet up the wrong body,” she said in the interview hours before she found out that her son was safe.

“I call he father telling he and he sound annoyed. I say ‘just answer me this. Why you ain’t come for the lil boy or call?’ He say ‘you think that is why he run away again?’ He ain’t really sound concerned; he does be getting on like if yuh bother he.

“He does promise them all the time to come for them. He use to call for birthdays and Christmas and he don’t call or come no more,” she said.

The 30-year-old mother told Barbados TODAY that the man’s absence from Tarel’s life has had such a profound impact on the boy that in recent times it began to manifest itself in the child’s behaviour both at school and at church.

“He tell my daughter that I [don’t] want he to watch the cartoon that he want to watch and always want he to revise; but it hard because he running bout behind somebody that don’t care about he. All he doing is putting me in trouble. I don’t know what he want from he father.

“I don’t even know what to do anymore. Suppose he come back and then go back looking for he again and again?” Adams added.

Adams said she was not always the perfect mother, but she sought to put her children’s needs first. She also promised to do all that was possible to resolve the child’s issues .

Stressing that she did not want other children to experience what her son was going through, Adams pleaded with fathers to maintain a relationship with their children, despite the status of the relationship with the mothers.

“All the time Tarel saying he want he father . . . . These fathers in Barbados ain’t paying the children no mind and at the end of the day it does be the mothers. Don’t matter how hard you try, them still want a father,” she said.

Barbados TODAY rang the boy’s father on several occasions but the calls were not answered and were not returned up to the time of publication.


15 Responses to Missing Dad

  1. Divine Duchess
    Divine Duchess April 12, 2016 at 1:00 am

    Lord have mercy son, u r so eager to be loved and care for by ur dad u were destined to find him by any means necessary smh. U did 11 yrs without him hun rest assure u can go 11 more becuz its clear he doesn’t want to be apart of ur life or development which is sad. U won’t always be small buddy, u will grow up without a dad but with a mom who would cherish the ground u walk on!
    A mother’s love is like no other #hugs/kisses

  2. Beverley Hunte-Springer
    Beverley Hunte-Springer April 12, 2016 at 2:15 am

    This is so sad. Children need their fathers. I hope his father grows up now this has happened & bonds with this little boy. People do not realise it, but this is a serious matter. I hope things work out for the sake of this child.

  3. Joceline Blackett
    Joceline Blackett April 12, 2016 at 2:37 am

    This is very sad. That father clearly don’t care about his child/children. I hope and pray that this little lad will stop putting his mother through such pain and embrace the love she is showing him. It is very painful to hear this. The father is pure and simple worthless.

  4. peaches April 12, 2016 at 2:42 am

    I understand this mom’s plight but there are some mothers out there even tho the fathers supporting their children restricting them from seeing them. The family act needs to be looked at by the authorities.

  5. Veronica Straker
    Veronica Straker April 12, 2016 at 4:01 am

    This is so scary and sad on so many levels. Even driving that is a great distance imagine walking to and fro then imagine all the possible things that could have happened to him.
    Not knowing the situation I would hope your father see this and your desperate need to see him and do all within his power to be a part of your life.

  6. Veroniva Boyce
    Veroniva Boyce April 12, 2016 at 4:12 am

    There is more to this story. The boy is eleven years old and it is possible he is hanging around with the wrong crowd. He pushed the boundaries by running away from home more than once and return home when he stomach touching his back or miss his family. Like all children would do find any believable excuse for their actions. Mum suppose to seek advice from the child care board if he is getting out of hand especially if his father refuses to offer her any support. Mum wants the best for her son but right now he cannot see it. The 11 plus exams can be stressful for some children. Some parents expect too much. Mum should be able to explain that Cartoons will always be repeated on TV it is not that important as an sound education. All the child need is 30 mins during the school week to revise and she can sit. with him spending some quality time . We work and set aside time with our daughter & son during the school week to offer any assistance with home work or revision. We always advised children not to stress try your best pass or fail we love you. The weekend is their time to chill or take part in social activities. I hope and pray he is found or the irresponsible idiot that putting him up hand him over to the police.

    • Cat Rock
      Cat Rock April 12, 2016 at 4:30 am

      You don’t live there anything is possible. Just because you house is ok doesn’t mean this can’t happen on hers.
      Stop being so judgemental

  7. Miche April 12, 2016 at 7:59 am

    Mothers need to be more responsible… After 11 tears ,,and this boy cant say where his father lives,,yet sne can call him ,,when she feels like,,,,,….Not saying that the father is blameless,,but mothers,,,,,,please remember that your body is yours,,,, children should never be the result ao a one night fling,,,,,take control of your passions,,,your lust,,your infatuations,,,and thus eliminate some of these single parent situations……MEM ,,,,Trifling with fragile hearts is a sin of great magnitude,,,,,the lot of sweet nothings you belch forth from lying ,lustful lips will one day work against you.

    • me April 12, 2016 at 8:38 am

      I find your comment so out of place. After 11 years a persons address can change. How could you assume the child is the product of a one night stand. Do you know how long the parents where together for ? Sometimes if we have nothing positive to say you should leave it alone. Anyhow we must always remember similar situations can arrive at our doors on any day.

  8. dave April 12, 2016 at 8:07 am

    All a man does want is a lil sex failing to realize that sex is about reproduction. When the children come, some men are not ready for them, some women neither. The nuclear family is it. Stop the casual sex. Find a partner , marry and stay true. The vows say for better or worse and this is for a reason.

  9. Sunshine Sunny Shine April 12, 2016 at 8:13 am

    Brought to me to tears. I just have one bone to pick with you weeping mom.. I am a woman, and though I have my reservations about the mindset of bajan men, you cannot speak like you are the authority on fathers. How do you know so much that you can make such a blanket statement that these fathers in Barbados do not pay their children any attention? You got some crystal ball base facts? Just speak to the man you know and do not paint every father in Barbados with the same condemnation brush.

  10. Rochelle April 12, 2016 at 8:29 am

    You people are so judgemental! Do you even know the facts of the case? Shut up and simply pray for families in this nation.

  11. lester April 12, 2016 at 8:55 am

    OK DADDY COME FORTH PLEASE!!!!! THAT BOY IS A HERO HE IS LOOKING FOR HIS GLORY. Proverbs 17:6 Children’s children are the crown of old men; and the glory of children are their fathers.

  12. jrsmith April 12, 2016 at 10:44 am

    when bajan women is going to get out of the baby factoring business. So much rubbish stop having babies with the nasty men, whats needed in Barbados is a free DNA testing Lab, finding the fathers to support the kids , women themselves is to be blame ..

    Of what I can remember from the kids factory..
    2 women with 3 kids each (6 kids ) complaining of they problems of living conditions.
    2 more women 5 kids each(10 kids) in the same predicament.
    1 woman with (9 kids ) and pregnant again the same problems..
    1 man with (9 kids ) who seems to doing better than the women.

    34 kids 6 people , who think its ok to just produce kids, the kids didn’t ask to be here, not only in Barbados black men and women are just factoring babies , a documentary from the US showing 6 fathers blacks who has fathered 41 kids amongst them…

    How long is this going to go on for something has got to be done. We need a paternity court in Barbados also free DNA testing Lab.. the pain on the children..

    On the continent of Africa a child dies every 5 to ten seconds from hunger, starvation and dieses..

  13. Ingrid Codrington April 12, 2016 at 3:51 pm

    This story is sad, but the problem is part of every day life for so many of our children in this country. Too many men run off and refuse to understand that we are all born with the natural instinct and desire to be close to our biological parents.
    A large percentage of our schoolchildren lack the love, presence, emotional and material support of their fathers and many suffer greatly as a result, and sadly are scarred for life.
    Please guys, you may break with with the mothers, but please don’t ignore the little ones. They need you now, but you like so many old bajan men today, will need them in your old age.


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