Sex no secret


I could almost feel the slap I would get years ago if I had ever made the attempt to ask my great-grandmother about sex. Sex was not anything ever discussed in my home. Whatever I learnt about sex, I heard from my classmates.

We are now living in an age when we have to speak to our children about sex, and the dangers of having sex. Too many times, many of us as parents do not sit with our children and speak to them about sex. I could imagine how embarrassing a parent might feel having to bring up the topic of sex, but unfortunately we are living in a world where the earlier we have this conversation with our kids, the better.

Children are growing up with more knowledge than we did. They are now exposed to the Internet, something we never had, which is making many sites with pornographic images accessible. Our children are going to school with other kids and getting information about sex, which is sometimes very wrong. That is why we as

parents need to be open and honest with our children, providing them with the correct information about sex and advising them about peer pressure.

Sometimes I still wonder if technology has enhanced us or hindered us. We are now relying so heavily on our gadgets to give us information. We are even purchasing expensive phones and other devices for our children, allowing them free access to whatever they want.

I implore parents who purchase laptops

and tablets to go on the Internet and get information on applications that can prevent their children from accessing certain sites. If they are going to purchase these gadgets they should be well informed about what they can and cannot do.

We are faced as a society with teenage pregnancy, our children participating in sexual activities that should be done by adults only. What are we as a society going to do about this? Are we going to stay in our corner and whisper and shake our heads, or are we

going to sit our children down and open up to them?

Some of us parents, I would say, are to blame for what is happening to our kids in society, because we are not educating them correctly, and are allowing outside forces to do our job.

What is so wrong with sitting your children down in a relaxed atmosphere and asking them what they know or do not about sex? Trust me, you will be surprised at what they will tell you, if only you ask. Advise

them of the dangers of participating in such an activity at so early an age.

Let them know what is child abuse, and what sexual transmitted diseases there are. Have an open relationship with your children that they feel comfortable coming to you with any challenges they may face. Until we open up to our kids, we will never know exactly what they know, or what they may have experienced.

Have a wonderful week ahead. One Love!

6 Responses to Sex no secret

  1. Roger Rudder
    Roger Rudder December 5, 2013 at 8:49 am

    What I see so wrong about sexuality today is the equating of the vagina and anus. It is not that I am suggesting that young men who fool themselves that they have a vagina by the way of the anus should be dealt with draconian measures to correct the misinformation. But it should be fully understood by young folks that an anus is not another vagina, or a substitute vagina. How dare anyone try to fool the innocents otherwise? An impression I have gotten from reading of what seemed to be an educator in Barbados. As people get older, let them do what they want in private.

  2. Roger Rudder
    Roger Rudder December 5, 2013 at 10:06 am

    Point two: Another point on what could be wrong in Barbados. It is quite possible within the last two decades, Barbadian sexuality has been politicalized and prostitutionalised .

  3. Roger Rudder
    Roger Rudder December 5, 2013 at 10:21 am

    Did Barbados incur an alarming increase in homosexuality within the last two decades and what are the causative points?

  4. Yes, there is a large and growing homosexual population and within that population which includes sex workers, HIV/AIDS is an issue of concern.

    “Between 1984 and the end of 2010, the cumulative total of people diagnosed with HIV was 3,426 and of these, 65.6% were also diagnosed with AIDS. During this period, the total number of deaths among persons with HIV was 1,508 and 1918 persons were believed to be alive by the end of 2010.”

  5. so Roger Rudder, has the GOVERNMENT (Ministry of Health) began with the further research they said they would as follows:

    “The current trends suggest a mixed epidemic – that is, a generalized HIV epidemic with probable higher HIV prevalence in key populations. There is anecdotal evidence to suggest that some of the groups most at risk groups are men who have sex with men (MSM), sex workers (SW) and prisoners. However, validation of this assumption is yet to occur through the conduct of specific research studies. The Ministry of Health has commenced a behavioural and sero-prevalence survey for MSM and a similar study is slated to begin for sex workers by 2013.” ~unitednationsaids report submitted by Barbados

  6. Deenee December 5, 2013 at 7:09 pm

    In agreement. Parents cannot afford to allow their children to be so “wise” about many things, without the parents being there to advise and direct the children in a positive manner. If the parent does not know , then they need to make sure that they obtain the help and answers needed for their child.

    It is no longer acceptable to not have the talk, and discuss with a young child. It is no longer acceptable to hide knowledge from children. Parents must be vigilant in knowing and being able to answer questions from their child, and if they are having a problem doing so, then find the person who can inform them and their child.


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