Mom’s painful scars
Eastmond pain still raw, three months after daughter’s sudden death
Nearly three months after her daughter died suddenly, leaving behind three young children, Cora Eastmond’s emotional scars are far from healed.
Twenty-seven-year-old Melissa Eastmond died on July 26, moments after telling her family she felt tired and was going to take a nap.
Her sudden passing left the family shattered, particularly her mother, with whom Melissa had enjoyed a close relationship.
And today, while receiving a donation of food items and cash from the Yes We Care committee of Baobab Tower, Eastmond said the pain was still raw.
Inconsolable at times, the grieving mother also appealed for assistance in the form of counselling.
“I holding on three months here but it still hurts. It hurts very, very, much because my daughter and me use to live like mother and daughter, sister and friends. It is as if it happen yesterday. It hurting me very, very much. I don’t like to talk about this honest. I don’t know if people would understand,” she told Barbados TODAY after the presentation.
When Melissa died she left behind twin boys who were a month shy of their second birthday, and a nine-month-old baby girl.
Eastmond said the children had difficulty coping and there were times when they would wake up in the middle of the night crying.
“Their uncles and aunty does come for them and ask for them, so they well looked after. The children don’t quite understand, they believe she gone to come back.
“Up to couple nights ago one of twins get up crying and staring at the ceiling and it was only when the neighbour took him for a drive that he stop,” she said.
Melissa was the only person in the household who worked, and following her death her unemployed mother said she simply did not know how she would find the emotional and financial strength to care for the children.
The grieving mother also said at the time she would welcome any assistance to help with her grandchildren because she was determined to keep a promise she had made to her daughter.
“Earlier this year Melissa asked me to take care of the children if anything happen to her. She say, ‘mummy if anything happen to me I don’t want anybody else raise my children but you. The father could come and look for them but I want you to raise my children’. I will do it,” Eastmond pledged then.
A number of individuals and organizations have responded to her plea, the latest being the Yes We Care committee with today’s donation.
And, even as the 58-year-old continued to weep, she expressed heartfelt thanks for the assistance she received in her most trying times.
“I think it is so good and I appreciate it. I am trying to get myself together to write a thank you note but I can’t get myself together. I might have to get somebody else to do it for me. Without the help I get and getting, it would be difficult. It is really helping a great deal.”
“I appreciate it with my whole heart. My family and me appreciate it a lot, and to all the people that help, I would like to say a warm thank to them,” Eastmond emphasized.
Nonetheless, her words of gratitude did not extend to the father of Melissa’s three children, Fabian Maynard.
Mere days after Melissa’s passing, Maynard confessed to Barbados TODAY he had been a delinquent dad, and he promised to shape up and play an active role in his children’s lives.
“I got to be there. I ain’t leaving them. I gine always be there to support in whatever way I can. As I say I neglect from before, so I know I got to do a lot now,” Maynard said at the time, adding that he had expected strong criticism from the public, but he was prepared to take the flak because he deserved it.
However, Eastmond today said it was all talk and there had been no action since.
“He went in the paper saying that he going to be there for the children, but up to now not a cent . . . . So all of that putting strain on me and I want you all to put this in the paper,” a tearful Eastmond said.