Being an adult only when kid days are over
In another seven days, schoolchildren will be taking their “summer recess” –– ten weeks of holidays, running from, Thursday, June 30, until Monday, September 12. In this long period, our young will require appropriate supervision, and will need to be exposed to positive, developmental and beneficial activities.
It is no understatement that if there is little to no proper parental supervision, or meaningful guidance by guardians, our little ones may be distracted into negativity and/or fall victims to abuse.
It is not unknown for young girls –– and boys –– to suffer sexual abuse and indignity at the hands of older brassy, barefaced, familial brutes, especially the spouses of their mothers, who make for insidiously corrupt stepfathers.
We aver that such conduct is even more criminal, scandalous and immoral than when perpetrated by neighbourhood non-relatives, as horrible as it all is!
The greater tragedy even is that much of the time the child victim in the familial felony must forego justice on account of hovering public family shame, or, worse yet, for fear of loss of financial support of the home by the manipulated mother.
In this present period of public and private sector job retrenchment, it is not remotely challenging to imagine the more active minefields which the unscrupulous in our midst would present for our young girls and boys with the growing international sexual liberty –– and their mothers –– to dangerously negotiate or manoeuvre, or be content to submit to racy and lurid conditions for their “protection” and survival.
In such circumstances, our young boys and girls are forced to internalize these dehumanizing acts to their bodies, and to run around the place with hidden physical and psychological injuries. As the psychologists will tell us, these children are likely to grow up as dysfunctional adults, of course, creating problems for themselves and others in their communities, or the wider society.
The painful acknowledgement is that many in authority have claimed that this child sex abuse is much more serious and prevalent than we would like to think; yet inexplicably much silence surrounds it. How does such staggeringly aberrant acts of a 50-year-old buggering a pre-teenage boy and an even older man sexually assaulting a ten-year-old become swept under the carpet again and again?
It is a circumstance that deserves and demands more than stoic observation and formal calls for amendment to the Laws Of Barbados.
Young lives may well be ruined by this callousness –– in some cases, little boys and girls written off as deviant because they were unable to give their narrative, or if indeed they had presented it, it was not seriously taken or sufficiently probed because of the under the carpet syndrome.
There can be little doubt many of our young living in such strained and intractable conditions would at times be forced unwarily into more untenable quarters, and ultimately on to our streets as persons of violence –– gun-wise
It is agonizing and distressing reflecting upon the images of an angelic baby boy or girl morphed over time into a brat, bandit or liquidator –– for the greater part through no premeditated plan or design of their own. Such a situation is likely to exist when a mother is well aware of the child sex abuse by her partner, and knows deep down inside that said person is not right for her or her offspring, but makes justifications and excuses over and over.
It is more traumatic when such a child was taught and encouraged by its grandparents to be a child, growing up in anticipation of being adult someday and then doing adult things.
These days, buoyed by a misbelief children are now more naturally mature in thinking, reckless parents and guardians expose their charges to all manner of ill-suited music and conversations –– to a great extent sexual in content or flavour –– confusing the young ones as to their true role and purpose.
During this upcoming summer school vacation parents and guardians will pledge to secure their children, if they truly care about them, from the wiles and hands of the sexually depraved among us. They will also commit to confirming in them a deep understanding of appropriate conduct, and the notion that good behaviour and obedience to authority will be rewarded with opportunity and lifetime skills, as complements to their school education.
When they become adults, they ought to be able to proudly and purely state:
When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.
–– 1 Corinthians 13:11.