Mother crying out again for help

My children are hungry again!

The cry of 45-year-old Harriett Hackett as she took a breadfruit from a neighbour and made her way into the kitchen to turn it into a meal for her children when they return home from school.

The mother’s story is not new to readers as her undesirable circumstances were highlighted in an article published in Barbados TODAY on March 18 where she asked for help with feeding and clothing her children.

She told Barbados TODAY this afternoon that she was still struggling to feed her little ones.

Immediately following publication of the article, the Mayers Road, My Lord’s Hill, St Michael family, whose home is also in dire need of repairs, received help in the form of food, clothing and even money from kind hearted Barbadians locally and abroad.

At that time, the unemployed mum said that though she was relentlessly trying to find a job, she had not worked “in years”. Today, she is still searching.

Harriett Hackett
Harriett Hackett

“I looking for work, of course, but I can’t find none up to now. Anything anybody can give me to do, I would be glad for,” the mother said.

Now weeks later, Hackett said while she was thankful for the help last time, she was once again in the same position of hardly having anything to feed her children, the eldest being 20 (not living with her) and the youngest five.

“I don’t have anything for the children to eat. All the vouchers and all the food stuff gone.

“I still want help with food stuff and things because the children does eat a lot and I does still get trouble feeding them. Right now who could carry to school lunch will get and if there ain’t no more, the rest won’t get,” the soft-spoken mother said in a frank tone.

In the article, Hackett had pointed out a home lacking proper furniture where some of the children must sleep on a sponge laid out on the floor of a clustered bedroom.

In an effort for the children to sleep in comfort, the mother said she removed the partition separating the bedroom and the living room to accommodate them.

But she said the fact remained that the area was still cramped and proved to be uncomfortable for her little charges.

“My children would still fight for the beds because it only got three beds and all of them want this space and that space,” she explained.

18 Responses to Mother crying out again for help

  1. Վդփժը Գչփչթ
    Վդփժը Գչփչթ June 6, 2015 at 5:28 am

    See now why there’s a difference between giving a man a fish and teaching a man to fish?… Now every body run hot and sweaty to get dem face in de paper doin a ‘good’ deed, now it back to square one!.. When will we learn it’s better to give someone a hand up as opposed to a hand out!!.. By the way tho… what happened to all de barrels of food that all de churches and other organisations was displaying for the media to see?

    • Kevin June 6, 2015 at 8:38 am

      The children eats a lot. Maybe the 20 year old coming for their 3-square meals a day as well.

    • Juniork June 6, 2015 at 10:36 am

      You need to get off the American right wing sitrs where you copy and paste.
      What if the pond has no fish?

      • Kevin June 6, 2015 at 10:45 am

        Վդփժը Գչփչթ made an excellent point and the fact that the mother is searching for work proves it. She wants to be self-sufficient. I’m sure that she will need help even if she gets a job but at least she will be able to contribute something.

  2. Veronica June 6, 2015 at 5:59 am

    It’s not an either or, but a both and!! When someone is hemorrhaging, which she is (no food AND needs a job to sustain herself) – u stop the flow of bleeding long enough to treat to the source (where the bleeding is coming from), u do BOTH and. U provide food aka stop the bleeding (hemorrhaging) and u help them find a job aka, the source of the bleeding – u don’t do one or the other, u do both and. So u both teach them to fish AND in the meantime – while u’re teaching them to fish, u provide fish – so they won’t starve before they learn!!

  3. jrsmith June 6, 2015 at 6:28 am

    Life is tough life is hard , but she choose to have all these kids for different men and now , putting this burden on the bajan people, I will bet they are a lot in bimshire like her.
    What I don’t understand ,you have one child , life style is changing for the worst, but you go and get another one and another one, people with her attitude are the world over.
    What is being done to educate these women, the next best step the government needs to do something for a change , set up a DNA testing department , find these men who think they could go a round impregnating women , make them pay. stop causing misery to our well being.
    Feel sorry for the kids , as for finding a job, would someone explain the idea of a job and finding the same at this moment in time.
    What the hell is social services in Barbados is doing, are they all sitting in they offices on the phone chatting with they friends.

  4. Boomstatic June 6, 2015 at 7:04 am

    jrsmith you seem to be present at the conception of the children that you know who the fathers are?!!? Have you even met the woman that you can make a statement like that?

  5. winslow Brome June 6, 2015 at 7:46 am

    Women nt breed for children ,get someone responsible.

  6. carson c cadogan June 6, 2015 at 9:48 am

    Here we go again!!!

    seeing that Barbados Today is her buddy, why dont they sponsor her year round.

  7. Patrick Blackman June 6, 2015 at 12:04 pm

    @jrsmith: you are right. These women know who the fathers of their children are, put them in court for the required maintenance and stop begging for help.

  8. jrsmith June 6, 2015 at 2:23 pm

    @, boombastic, that’s where you are at, like many others, find the easy parts, stupid comments.
    My concern ,the kids they didn’t ask to be here, in this mess.
    I would be one of the person ,who will donate some dollars for the kids sake.

  9. Bostonian June 6, 2015 at 4:16 pm

    I feel bad for the lady to a certain extent, but my problem is that damn 20 year old, come on he or she should try harder searching for some type of employment even if it’s picking up cans and bottles instead of sponging his or her mother

  10. Merlz June 6, 2015 at 9:33 pm

    Thanks Barbados today for sharing.
    We need to support women and children who are suffering. They lack basic needs which is essential for growth. Where is the compassion of the Bajan people. I am quite disappointed in some of the comments I read.

    She already has the children. Forget what happened and their fathers. A child cannot suffer because of their parents actions. We should care more and lend a hand instead of criticizing.

    I do not live in Barbados but I really hope she get the help she deserve. God will take care of his own and I pray she find God to gain comfort.

    You will be alright Harriett.

  11. Maxine Baker June 7, 2015 at 4:35 pm

    jr smith, you stated that the government should set up DNA testing. What are you really saying? That the women will have to put a man’s name in the books of the judicial system and what will happen? Will the man be mandated to pay the cost of the services When it has been discovered that he is not the father or any of the child / children, she then had to repay him – from where will be get the money that she would need so much to support her children? How many names of men will she tender before the system?

    What I would posit here is that children, from the time they enter nursery school should be exposed (in consonant with their level of understanding) to Parenting and other family matters. Why? They would learn from those tender ages what they should and should not do in relationships even among themselves at that tender age. When we are able to train up a child in the way that he/she should go, that child would find it difficult to stray from the path.

    I will use this medium to remind the Chief Education Officer of the need to revamp the curricula in our educational system, beginning from the nursery level and up to the secondary level.

    Let us protect our children. Stop robbing them of their destiny by mentally poisoning them – beginning in the womb (the negative thoughts that mother’s carry about the delinquent fathers).

    In addition, we have to remember that we are not fighting flesh and blood. It is a spiritual warfare. Who is teaching us to fight that warfare? Very few church leaders. The occultist teach their young one how to fight against Christians. From the ages of 8 and 9 they are taken to church for periods of 8 -9 hours at a time – to fight for souls for their daddy. We spend one and a half to two hours in church and when we leave some of us realize that we have been none the wiser.

    The woman needs deliverance. One of those fathers or a member of her family of of the family or families of the fathers have “chained her feet in the realm of the spirit” (Asd above so below) as has been done with many other women – young and old. She needs the help of a man of God who will deliver her. Then she will take off as though she had the wings of an eagle.

    jr smith, the government cannot do this warfare. It is done by the Blood of Jesus and the Fire of the Holy Spirit through a sincere agent of Him. Such an act will not only allow her to “learn how to fish” but the would come to the point wherein she would be able to “feed thousands”!

    Tell her to rise up and ask Jesus to lead her to His Agent who will take on the role of her Deliverer. He knows who he is right now. I will also ask him to step forward and meet her halfway – not to make her a member of your congregation but to add her to God’s Book of Life. Amen! Hallelujah!

  12. Patrick Blackman June 7, 2015 at 5:45 pm

    @maxine barker – I actually started to get your point until you embarked on that journey into the abyss. What you should have said is that adults when they engage in activities that may result in bring new life into this world they have a legal and moral responsibility to that life. Wantonly creating life for/in hope of financial benefit should not be tolerated.

    It is therefore incumbant on the government to ensure that the reposibilities of these adults and the rights of the offspring of such unions are enforced. Just that simple, nothing more nothing less.

    @ jrsmith – Hail

  13. Gracie Moore June 7, 2015 at 8:02 pm

    Some times all the children is for one man and he can find a woman with the same among as yours or more but he find it possible to feed them and his children gets nothing ….but as women with children must find jobs or make jobs to feed our children ,no real mother depends on men for money we have to better than that….it is not only food,what about clothes and shoes ,books and a whole lot more,shelter….you have to give them a little treat every now and then,a little pocket change and the list go on…it,s not how much but how to do it…begging is a job by it self but sometimes that,s the only people make things happen,listen woman who ever you are ,bake bread …make sugar cakes …buy some chicken and fry with some potatoes chips ,use those hands and the brain God gave you….small becomes big….the job market dry-up ….Jah knows i used my mind and hands and fed my children and them look real good too ,and now i trying for my self now…it hard but we name woman…which means get something and the list go on.

    • gee-gee June 8, 2015 at 11:32 am

      very well said Ms Moore, A little to each , go along way,

  14. Patrick Blackman June 7, 2015 at 8:22 pm

    @Gracie Moore – got it… really got it…. thanks for all those out there who refuse to get it.


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