Letting our children be children . . .
Well, it has come to the point regrettably where our police feel compelled to keep a closer eye on our schoolchildren –– on the street and wherever else they might congregate. The reason? The virtual weekly acts of deeply injurious violence.
There is now regular harm to the person by stones, knives and other sharp-edged tools among our charges; and it won’t be long –– if this state of affairs goes wistfully unchecked –– before guns blast their way in too.
Our children are the future of Barbados; not of America. And yet our educators and social leaders, brainwashed that all notions and concepts American are superior to those proven principles and conventions that made us a resilient country, are hell-bent on pursuing a miscellany of contradictions and irrationalities in our school system and among our children generally that will do our progeny no good, and the society much less.
While acts of lawlessness and criminality –– by child or adult –– demand police intervention, child misdemeanours ought never to evolve to the stage at which we are, where the Big Brother Copper, with big gun on his hip, must now keep order among students at school, in school and outside. Big Brother Copper shouldn’t have to be taking the place of teacher, and mother and father, when it comes to school discipline and child rearing.
That scenario, for all the palaver of American modern methods of parenting and its accomanying flummery, sadly obtains all across the United States –– in public and private schools –– where students are even drilled for class and school gun attacks –– much like how some of our schoolchildren are trained to take precaution in case of an earthquake or a rolling tsunami; only much more seriously.
America is in disorder when it comes to discipline in the school, and bullying is rampant.
So mistrustful, violent and chaotic is life at school in the United States that many premises are like mini-police states. Some classrooms are like prison cells for the sake of the innocent and control of the freaks obsessed with criminal conduct and mayhem.
Some students are even being monitored by radio-frequency identification microchips, their book and lunch bags inspected daily in and out of school; cameras are everywhere. These are obviously not the best circumstances under which children should be studying. But such are the result of the breakdown in the traditional values of rearing and training the young at home, with complementary support at school.
The folly of no spanking for disobedience; no telling off for obstinacy and disrespect, which by so-called modern thinking has now been replaced by negotiations with a child to do the right thing (which could end in deadlock), and by bribery with an iPad, have all been responsible for the decadent conduct among “First World” and wannabe “First World” children.
Our charges have been made to feel they are untouchable, and have a right to be so; that every raised voice for stress on a value is a violence against them. And parents, teachers and social leaders have been successfully made to believe that the non-acceptance of the foolishness is an indication of their backwardness and a manifestation of non-education –– this balderdash being passed off as noetic and reformist by bumblers in the highest of places.
The most recent turn of craze comes from UNICEF’s representative in Barbados, Khin-Sandi Lwin, on bullying in our schools.
Says she: “When a child is raised with punishment as discipline . . . that is, physical punishment as a discipline, then you are introducing violence to a child . . . .”
And this by extrapolation, according to her, makes for a child being a bully at school. The truth is, bullies don’t discipline you for doing a wrong; they beat the hell out of you for doing everything right; or for doing nothing at all.
We are not advocating or supporting brutality of children. We are saying a little spanking or flogging when all else fails or for serious offences will do far more good than bad. Knowing this is the rule, a challenging child may obviate reaching the stage of corporal punishment. The possibility of the untimate punishment becomes the deterrent.
Deterrence may be our best companion yet. It would save our children having to be treated eventually as terrorists at school, as happens today in the United States, where ironically all kinds of organizations abound advising the rest of the world how to raise their children when they can find no solution for their own mayhem at home.
God’s Word on training up a child in the way he should go still holds true. These permissive child advocates might take some time to reflect on the advice of the Creator of us all. Then they will know the truth, and the truth shall set them free. (John 8:32.)