No more prohibitions
Strange behaviours of the past are apparently becoming the norm today in Barbados.
Clinical psychologist, Reverend Dr. Marcus Lashley, made this observation last night while speaking on the topic, “Who am I — Personality Formation”, at the Carrington Wesleyan Holines Church, Welches, St. Michael.
Lashley referred to a recent situation in St. Lucia where a son-in-law wanted to marry his mother-in-law but they were not granted permission. However they got the permission to marry in Barbados.
He argued that the prohibitions of yesteryear had been thrown out the window and anything goes today, adding he still believed that “if you get a child and train it in the correct way you can produce the kind of child you want”.
The cleric described Sunday School was very important in shaping the character of the island’s youth, and recalled that in Barbadian saying “small pigeons have wide earholes”, implying that children tend to pay attention to things that grown persons do not belief they can understand.
“The wisdom of that says that even though you may think that children are not listening and understanding, they are tangentially picking up things, and it amazes you at times how much children can pick up,” the psychologist told his audience.
“There is formal socialisation and there is also informal, so when you come home from church tonight and your wife says to you, ‘Honey make a cup of tea’, and you say ‘Make the cup of tea yourself’, the child is listening and is being sensitised,” Lashley said.
He noted that “the teacher is god in the sight of a toddler” and pointed out that you cannot tell your toddler that is the way it is done if the teacher says otherwise.
He argued that there is a tremendous role for formal and informal socialisation in shaping the personality of the island’s youth.
“The persons who are influential are not men, but women. They are influencing them and have this status.”
He questioned the dangers of the current situation where most of the school population goes from kindergarten to secondary school being taught by female teachers.
He said: “We have male roles and female roles in play. I am not sure how many children in 2013 play mummy and daddy, but when I was a boy I did. I did not play the mummy role. Through play you learn how to be a man. The role of men can even be learnt while at church.”
Lashley identified the role of mimicking as a practice engaged in by boys to adopt a man’s role at an early stage, and argued that with the use of unisex items boundaries between the sexes no longer exist.
According to the minister, children as young as nine and ten years were now experimenting with homosexuality, adding: “We are living in a very complex world. There are no boundaries. There is no right or wrong anymore. Marijuana is acceptable. Parents are giving permission to their children to smoke marijuana in their homes, while young girls are allowed by their parents to engage sex in their home rather than run the risk of being killed while parked out.” (NC)