Support your child for 11 Plus
Common Entrance can be a difficult time for both parents and children. To secure a good outcome both parent and child, must be aware of the fact that they each play a vital role in this time. In my opinion the role of parents is one of support and guidance.
Using a supportive method towards you child will provide a quality learning experience. Effective communication between parent and child allows for each party to complete their respective roles and responsibilities. While some parents may intuitively understand their responsibilities, or through past experiences with other children may have been informed about them, other parents simply do not know.
Instead of becoming frustrated with your child for not understanding their responsibilities, take time to educate (or review) these responsibilities during an evening of fun orientation. Setup a time to be with your child or children, outline a plan of study, have a look at the child’s progress and talk to them about weaknesses. Remember to try to put yourself in your children’s position, feel with them and own the goals.
Children have to prepare using the curriculum and deliver at the exam time, and the parents have to ensure that they assist their children as far as possible in preparing for the exams. In fact, parents can play a major role in preparing their children to succeed in academic examinations.
Preparation is the best stress buster at exam time. Make sure your child is aware of the fact that if they fail to prepare they prepare to fail.
The period running up to the exams is a golden time. The key is to organise the timetable in such a way so as to cover all subjects thoroughly.
Children at this stage are quite impressionable. Therefore, it’s much easier to inculcate positivism in their minds so that your child can develop the coping mechanisms to learn to deal with the pressure of exams. This enables them to de-stress themselves and not panic at exam time.
Panicking during an exam is one of the main reasons children under perform in exams. Teach them simple routines to deal with exam stress at his age and these methods will remain with them through the rest of their lives. This subject is covered in slightly more detail at the end of the article.
If your child is having a tough time concentrating on a particular subject, try out innovative techniques from everyday life to make the subject interesting.
Don’t leave it until the last minute. If you’ve inculcated in the child the habit to be organised and adhere to all the deadlines throughout the year, half the job of preparing your child for their exams is already taken care of.
Children must be made aware of the importance of planning for the future. If the child knows what’s expected of him during the exam time, it’ll save him from the surprise element of added pressure. In this regard, preparing periodic schedule for the child, and encouraging him to adhere to it, could be a good way of bringing in discipline in the child’s routine.
Lastly, do not overburden your child with high expectations. Just leave them be and there are far more likely to deliver good grades. Your child has probably put themselves under enough pressure without you adding to it.
* Dr. Adrian Daisley is a Certified Life Coach, Stress Manager and Fitness Chef